bsk,<P>Sorry I didn't check the MB board yesterday or today....I hope you're still out there.<P>I can feel for you....you must be hurting and confused. I'll give you a little background on myself....I'm in my second marriage; my W and I have been together about 71/2 years and married 6 of those. I post on this MB page bc my W and I have real problems with emotional needs....I meet most of hers and she doesn't worry too much about mine....So, I lurk and post here for hope and to have some accountability for avoiding EA's and PA's.<P>My first marriage was very short and bitter. But, my ex had guy troubles. There was no way I could meet her emotional needs. She saw me at my best and worst; when she was with the guys, she only had fun with them.<P>Can you see the issue there. I was with her before work, evenings....house work, cooking, bills, bad moods, illness....she never had time to have fun with me....<P>I guess you situation is different than my 1st marriage....but, your W never really gave up the OM, just like my ex never gave up her OM....or other men as I suspect.<P>As long as she continues contact with the OM and is with you, you are in a no win situation. Now that she wants a divorce, I wouldn't love bust by fighting her. Let her go....and if you really love her and want to keep her, keep you door open. I'll bet the OM will not last....Once she gets into the rut of life with him, she really miss you.<P>Think about it. What kind of man would want to steal another's W? Not a man with any ethics, morals or quality character. I'll bet the OM is a very self-centered individual that your W will get sick of in a hurry.<P>Just something to think about. I'm not an expert on marriage; I'm on #2 and it's not in very good shape. I'm holding on for dear life....so, tie a knot in your rope and hang on, like so many of us here do.....<P>Hang in There!
