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My husband I have agreed on a settlement. He has already signed the papers and I will be doing so this week. My question is, when this goes to court for the judge to approve, can she/he change anything we have agreed upon (child support)? IF she can, will I have to resign new papers? <P>I did get a lawyer to review the papers but did not retain her. His lawyer has made the changes I requested. <P>Any advice?
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Anne,<P>Retain your own lawyer. Don't rely upon H's lawyer to represent your interests. <P>Any changes to the agreement will have to be re-signed by all parties to acknowledge the changes.<P>Finally, the laws are different in different states. Your lawyer will tell you what the law is in your jurisdiction. Get as much real information you can, read it, formulate some questions and then ask your lawyer for clarification. <P>WARNING: do not rely upon the advice of friends and family; there is a great deal of misunderstanding out there. <P>Good luck.
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I agree with Kenneth. The only way I would do it without a lawyer is if there were no kids, no property, and you could still get along fairly well. And neither side had one.<P><BR>In California, the judge can do whatever he wants. He changed our temp custody agreement to give my wife more time. We didn't have to sign anything.
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Don't ever, ever sign divorce papers without having your own attorney look at them. An attorney can only represent one person, your husband is being represented which means that he's looking out for your husband's best interest, not yours. Each state is different as far as how Judge's handle things. For instance, in MN the ncp HAS to pay the guidelines regarding to support even if the CP is rich and doesn't want the full amt. They feel it's the kids money and not the parents decision to lower the required amt.
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Ann,<P>Great advice here. Get your OWN lawyer. My lawyer told me the same thing.<P>Bob
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Get your own attorney and retain one now. It is often difficult for an attorney to get involved after so much has happened. My stbx wanted us to "save" money and use "his" attorney. LOL<P>If you have children...find yourself an attorney that is well versed in family law.....and knows all about custody issues and battles. You never know. I never knew I would be going through a custody battle....but I am....and 4 attorneys later.....I have finally found one that knows his crap. Two of my previous attorneys said that they knew my stbx attorney and that they "liked" him. That should have been a warning sign. My stbx's attorney is a rats a$$. I am sure that my stbx is paying his attorneys sons way through college.<P><BR>Nancy
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