After his playing mind games in chat a few nights ago....hummm I guess I should show you what he said and all huh...ok this was his last words to me in a chat on icq two nights in a row.....well a kiss good night my heavenly dream till next we meet keep me close at heart for i will u MUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUAH nites my angel eyes.....that was the first night and I just stared at the screen for an hour trying to fighre out what he was trying to do to me then the next night he leaves with this.....hey you nity nites 4 me see u arround my little hillbilly girl keep that smile warm and let me know if u need it warmed up k MUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUAH! sweet dreams angel eyes.....I finaly got enough and told him to stop talking to me like I am his wife, he wanted every thing this way( being civil and working up to friends sometime) and if he was going to talk to me in a way that would just bring back all the hurt and try to keep me down then I would no longer talk to him in any way. he said he was sorry and didnt mean to hurt me with what he said.<BR>ok then this morning he calles me and says "I need a favior, I need $300.00" I went through the roof he knows I have yet to find a job he only sends me $400.00 a month child support. he keep almost every thing and yet he wants me to send HIM money. I cant beleive he has the balls... ok sorry the nerve to ask me that, when he still tells me it is none of my business who or what he was doing in texas when he lfet here and disaperd for two weeks.<BR>I am just sooooooo mad I wont let him in even for a little bit right now he has done nothing but lie to me and play his emotional head games for a year now,he just dont get it I am not going for it this time and never will again.<P>ok thanks for the vent time !!!! feel better now<P><BR>Love ya'll<BR>Lesa <P>------------------<BR>"It took me quite a while to realize that <B>the real deal</B> is to be able to be enough of a person on your own to know when somebody loves you and cares about you"<BR>----Stevie Ray Vaughan<P>"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and<BR> lean not unto thine own understanding." -Proverbs 3:5<BR>Take care and God Bless.<P> lms20ish@fidnet.com

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lesa}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}]<P>I just can't figure out if he's dumb as a sack of sh*t or just totally deranged to think you'd fall for this!!!

Lesa,<P>Not much to say, but I am very sorry that this is happening to you. The only thing I can offer is to remind you to refuse to let this get you down. Just calmly say, "No, I can't afford to give you any money," and leave it at that. <P>I guess from the sounds of those emails your husband is very conflicted. I think he may have found that the single life is not nearly as rosy as he once thought, but he still has a lot of resentment built up. <P>Lesa, you have been very helpful and kind to me, and I am so sorry about your situation. The only thing I can say is that if you allow this situation to make you into a bitter person, it is a true tragedy. I am trying to be encouraging, and I sure hope that I have succeeded.<P>May the Lord Bless You and Keep You,<BR>John

Suggested response: (In a very innocent and naive tone of voice). "What a coincidence! You need $300.00! Why, imagine, I also need $300.00! Where should it come from? Do you have anyone who can get that much money for you?" (Wide-eyed innocence-no anger,irritation or fury. If he is as dumb as a sack of manure, he won't pick up the sarcasm. If he has any smarts, he will, but you won't be love-busting, no sir, not you! Sweet, pure, innocent you.<P>Bless you and I hope you get a good job soon.<P><P>------------------<BR>Belle, Domestic Goddess

Lesa,<P>It just keeps getting better and better doesn't it??? <P>Remind him that as of now, you need every little penny that you get from him and that he needs to find other resources for his money!!! <P>Hey! I'll be online tonight. Give me a yell if ya can!<P>Love ya,<BR>Mitzi

Lesa,<P>I wish you could have seen the look on my face as I read your post ! There are no emoticons that would describe it ! <P>I am so sorry he is acting that way with you ! The flirting around , playing with your head and heart is bad enough, but then asking you for money knowing how tough things are for you ? aarrrrggggghhhh !!!!!<P>I wish I had some good advice for you, but I just can't think of anything that won't be considered obscene right now. Sorry.<P>Hang in there. <P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

Lesa<P>What exactly struck him on the head? I just have to know? Maybe this would explain his sudden amnesia that HELLLLLLLOOOOOOOOO, you are the one taking care of the kids, providing shelter over their heads, food, clothes, ect.... 400 dollars barely pays for rent. And he's asking you for $300. <P>He's got some nerve alright...Just let him know he'll see that money when hell freezes over. No don't do that. I'm sorry, just venting right along with you.<P>Prayers and support as always...Love ya'<P>------------------<BR>"If you can learn from the mistakes of others, you won't have to make them youself."<P>lady_divine77@yahoo.com

well he is going to call tonight guess we will see how it goes LOL.<P>kam, I know what ya mean, I'm just glad I gave up tryin.<P>john, thank you for reminding me not to let it get to me...just where were ya the first night...lol I'm kidding it got to me for about an hour then I relized it was just one of his many games. and one thing I promise to you and all of my MB friends is that this will never make me bitter, you guys kept me going when I felt hopeless. thank you<P>Belle,I wish I had read this before I gave him my own virshion of my resopnce I dont think I can say what I did say here <P>mitzi my friend, I am so happy you got your job, and it will get better but only with out what held us back from getting jobs in the first place. I love you hun and am very proud of you<P>deb, I'm sure your face was like mine when I read what he said <P>jamie, you are more than welcome to vent with me lol email me with an update on you ok hun.<P>I want to thank you all for your thoughts and advice I couldnt of got to where I am today with out you all.<P>Love<BR>Lesa<P><BR>------------------<BR>"It took me quite a while to realize that <B>the real deal</B> is to be able to be enough of a person on your own to know when somebody loves you and cares about you"<BR>----Stevie Ray Vaughan<P>"Trust in the Lord with all thine heart, and<BR> lean not unto thine own understanding." -Proverbs 3:5<BR>Take care and God Bless.<P> lms20ish@fidnet.com <p>[This message has been edited by LMS (edited May 06, 2000).]