After years of marriage have difficulties with husband's family dependency on him. He is the eldest of 5 brothers.
<br>I am the foreigner in the family in my own country.
<br>When they are together I am the "odd" duck. They don't speak english.
<br>Conclusion is: Husband feels i am rejecting his family/friends. Since he is the eldest we are expected to always be the hostess. But since I don't feel apart of their converstations and thinking. I don't invite. I do tell my husband to go be with them.
<br>But seems to cause a separation of interests.
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Kustepe,
<p>I don't know the details of your situation but it seems to me the husband should be putting the well being of his wife above everyone else - family members included. I say that because in my own life I'm paying the price for not putting my wife first and I feel the daily humiliation of her putting me last on the list of things to be concerned about.
<br>I'm sure a difference in cultures can contribute to a problem. I had a friend from the Dominican Republic who married an American woman. In the Dominican Republic they still have attitudes about gender roles that have similarities to America of the 50's. He began to tell me about the clash between his attitudes and those of his wife.
<br>I explained to him that things here have been prety well saturated with sexual liberation, feminism, liscence mistaken for freedom, and so on. The last I heard they were having serious disagreements. I hope they worked them out.
<br>I don't know what exactly the cultural differences are in your case, but whatever the culture I don't think a man should put his wife under anyone else.