I have been married for 15 years, have two kids, and my wife is currently seeking a divorce. She states that she hasn't loved me for years and this is part of the reason why she wants out. She doesn't want to answer to anyone, yet I feel she's having and affair agian like she has in the past. I'm concern for her will being becasue she has lied so much in her life. I want nothing more the to save a marragie that is at the point of signing papers. I'm I crazy or is it time to say "BYE" and hope she comes back to me later. I have two kids that will be rocked over this and I want them to get through this, but I'm sure it will be hard.<P>

Welcome <B>StillHangingOn</B>...<P>I have a post of general welcome I wish to share with you... <P>It has a lot of quick links to many of the <B>most</B> important MB sites...<BR>Click here ==> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000002.html" TARGET=_blank>General Welcome for All New Builders(Newbies)</A><BR>It's mostly geared to those who just found out about affairs... but there are other good links in it too!<P>At the beginning of the year... the "main" forum was divided into addition separate forums... <BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=Just+found+out...&number=29&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>Just found out...</A>...for those new the forum... pre/post "discovery" of an affair or possible affair.<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=Plan+A/Plan+B&number=30&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>Plan A/Plan B</A>...usually after "discovery of the affair"...for those with questions of "what to do now?"<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=In+recovery&number=31&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>In recovery</A>...when a commitment to work on marriage by both spouses has begun.<BR>and a new ones being added as needed...<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&number=34&SUBMIT=Go" TARGET=_blank>Divorcing/Divorced</A>...when efforts at reconciliation fail or are failing.<BR><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&number=35&SUBMIT=Go" TARGET=_blank>Pregnancy/Child</A>...when pregnancy/Other Children(OC) are introduced through affairs.<BR>We are being asked to post the forums that make the most sense with respect to our questions/vents and not just dump everything into the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/marriage/forumdisplay.cgi?action=topics&forum=General+Questions&number=28&DaysPrune=10&LastLogin=" TARGET=_blank>General Questions</A> forum because it will give you the most responses! <P><B>About your post</B>...<BR>If you don't want the divorce but can't stop it...<BR>...you can still work for your marriage. You can start on (or continue) a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8113_ab.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A</A> approach with interacting with your W.<P>As far as your kids are concerned...<BR>...any counseling for them?...<P>If you are close to signing the papers (I'm in the same boat btw)...<BR>...your kids probably need some counseling.<P>Are you/have you had any counseling for <B>yourself</B>...<BR>...that could be important too!<P> <P>Jim