Guard and I are going for another reconcilation.<P>No, let me restate that, Guard and I are healing our marriage.<P>No wondrous events,just baby steps.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

Yeah!!!

yay! keep going, lor, he'll come around this time (how could he not? you are so wonderful!)<BR>(((((lor))))))

Lor, <BR>So glad to hear that! It is difficult, I know, but so worth it in the end. Someday, when the two of you are old and are still together, you will look back on this as a true test of your love, and you will have made it!!<P>------------------<BR>Susan

Lor and Guard,<P>Sending prayers and strength your way. Good luck, you both deserve happiness <P>Dana<BR>

I hope he likes cats.

Guard & Lor,<P>Forward, NOT backward!<P>Woohoo!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Hi Lor:<P>I was wondering where you have been these past few days. Figured something akin to a NATO negotiation was transpiring.<P>I love that song "Let's Stay Together" by Al Green. I'll play it for you tonight in your and Guard's honor.<P>See you and Guard in Recovery. This makes me very happy, Lor. I know you and Guard are probably scared, but, I bet you are excited about the possibilities that exist for the two of you.<P>Love<P>Catnip =^^=<P>

Thanks for the great news! I'm really happy for you:-)<BR>

There are lots of decisions to be made...among them, what the heck are we going to do with 4 cats? (I was going for the Cwazy Cat Lady scenario, but the kitten is Guard's, and is residing now in my house)<P>Obviously that isn't the big issue .<P>We're considering moving to his house, renting out our house, it's actually worth more to us that way...but Guard's house is across town...commute to keep the kids in the same schools.<P>We need to figure out what we both need for the closure of the other's affair. I hate the OW--if I could get away with it, I'd light her on fire (I know, not a nice Christian thought). He says other than the odd email, it's been over since Oct., when he discovered she was dating his housemate. I'm thinking, since they are co-workers, I might be satisfied by hanging out with the co-workers' social gatherings...and her hearing the gossip we're back together. I see very little benefit in Guard contacting her in any way. He did the Harley no-contact letter last year--she immediately contacted him (what part of "no contact" did she not understand?)<P>My OM. I called him about 10 days ago (weakness, temptation, loneliness). No plans to see him. I'd like to send the no contact letter, Guard would like to talk face to face, the 3 of us (I used to want that with his OW, but I think now I'd just cry or kill her). I'm thinking perhaps a compromise would be Guard can also send the Harley OP letter that can go along with Plan B "I love my wife and am making every effort for our marriage to work".<P>We're talking a Mexican vacation, renewal of vows, putting the rings on...and trying not to be scared out of our wits .<P>Kam, Julie, Sue, Dana, K, Lora, Chris, Catnip, MF thank you for your well wishes . I think Guard and I have the best chance that we've had in a long time...but there isn't much leeway for screwing up on either of our parts. {{{{deep breath}}}}}}

I too am so happy to hear this! <P>Jim

Lor:<P>I agree on your "leeway" for screw-ups. Would you both be willing to do the MB phone counseling??? I'd highly recommend it.

Thanks NSR.<P>K--both Guard & I have suggested phone counseling, neither of us catching the other in the mood, but I think it is worth discussing now. We do have a very good counselor, a Christian/former pastor, with his own infidelity/betrayer recovery going on many years. But we can use all the help we can get!

Hi Lor,<P>I will pray for you that you get what you want.<P>

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Lor (Lor):<BR><B><P>I hate the OW--if I could get away with it, I'd light her on fire <P></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>(((((((((((((((LOR)))))))))))))))<P><BR>I'm sorry to focus on this aspect, but you have made my day, I'm ROTFLMAO.......<P>you are a great human being!!!.....<P>oh, I know what you mean...oh, I do so know what you mean....LOL...<P>taking deep breath right along with you....<P>many good thoughts sent your way.....<P>Dylan<P>------------------<BR>"The journey into darkness has been long and cruel, and you have gone deep into it."<BR>~ A Course in Miracles

Lor,<P>Fantastic news!!! I will pray for you and Guard. With God's help, you can do this.<P>God Bless,<P>Cheryl<P>PS- Would you use a little gasoline, just a smidge? The flames would be hotter that way!! LOL

I'm ROTFL with SoulLoss! I say we light the ow on fire! <BR>(hey...it's still a little chilly in the evenings... )<BR>This IS good news! You two belong together.<BR>(ok, so I don't realy know you in person...but you know...women's intuition and all that... <BR>Walk softly, and carry a big stick! <BR>Best of luck!<p>[This message has been edited by Girlfriend (edited May 26, 2000).]

Lor,<P>Great news about you and Guard. <P>Although I never like to hear things like "...I would light the OW on fire..." (remember when TL said she wouldn't help Mia if she choked on a piece of meat in front of her?)... I do understand the anger and frustration that makes you feel so passionately. <P>Best wishes

Hey Lor & Guard,<P>So happy to hear the good news for you guys!!! <P>I think I would forgo any head to head meetings with the op. I understand the need for a clean break, but what are they going to say, okay we are done too. I say write the letters, no return addresses and if you receive something you don't recognize, give it to the other spouse for them to destroy in front of you. Neither one should read.<P>Again best of luck to you guys and God Bless.<P>Bob