My wife and I have been maried 30 years. I have recently begun to travel 4 1/2 days a week as a consultant. How do we manage 15 hours of uninterrupted time when I arrive home on Thursday at 6pm and Leave Sunday at 1pm? Seems like marathon weekends Fri, Sat and Sun am are our only time together each week. Suggestions would be appreciated. PS - Both kids are away at college now. If that makes any difference.

If it were me, I would be looking for a different job! Part of the reason my wife and I separated was because I was gone a lot...not because of a job, but because of hobbies. My wife should have come first...a painful lesson I have learned by losing her - we are divorcing. Yes, I have done all I could to change and was successful in that, but she is not willing to give it another try. The bottom line is this, your wife needs YOU more than she needs the paycheck you bring home. I assume from your name, "Bornagain", that you are a Christian. If so, rely on God to meet your financial needs and pray for Him to find a job that will support you and your wife and one that doesn't take away from your time together! Because in the end it's the time we spend together that matters...more than money, things, etc. Sorry so blunt!
<br> Ryan

Not a bad idea Ryan but unfortunately that option while inviting is not realistic under the circumstances. We try to talk daily by phone and via E-Mail and she travels with me occasionally. Otherwise, weekends are our only time together. Not traveling is not a real option for us.
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I am exactly were you are now.....I'm the wife of the one who travels and let me say for the record, IVE HAD ENOUGH!! You need to get your priorities straight!! You've been married for 30 years, that means you must really love her, do you not know what she is doing at home alone??She is constantly thinking about you and what SHE can do to make things differant. I'm sorry but the ball is in your court. You CAN make a change. There are millions of jobs out there, you just have to go find it. Think of this, what if your wife was to pass away today, how would you feel? How would you feel not knowing what she did on her last day? What she was thinking about, what she ate, how her day was planned, all because you CHOSE to be away.....you need to wake up before you lose everything you worked so hard for.....

I agree with Ryan and Dawn! Your family must come before your job. God is faithful and He will honor you for honoring your marriage. Remember, "Husbands, love your wife the way that Christ loved the church, even giving Himself up for her." Christ loved us enough to sacrifice everything for us, and He is calling you to love your W the same way. <p>What exactly is holding you back from making a change?<p>Praying for you,<br>Singer

Dear BA, <br>You were given good advice, but only you and she know the circumstances of your career. If she supports you and loves you than she will be strong and hold the fort while you are away. While I sympathize w/ your wife, she need to find creative ways to fill the loneliness while you are away. Since your children are gone she has freedom to go and do and serve in areas God would lead her in. You could rent a room to a college student, have an exchange student stay w/ you or have a woman from a battered relationship find shelter in your home. Her evenings could be spent on hobbies, further education etc. As long as you have close communications during the week and make your weekends count then that should be the glue to hold your marriage. Hope you can work it out.<br>From a sister in the Lord,<br>Poll<br>PS Read my column "No Intimacy". She should be greatful she has a husband that cares about the relationship as much as you do.