<B>Take the Personality Test:</B><P> <A HREF="http://www.personalitytype.com" TARGET=_blank>www.personalitytype.com</A> <P>Hey everyone......thought that this would be kinda fun!<P>Got this from one of Karenna's posts!.....<P>Here is how mine came out!<P> <B>ESFP</B><BR><B>(Extravert,Sensor,Feeler,Perceiver)</B><P>People of this type tend to be:Warm, gregarious, and playful; impulsive, curious, and talkative; sensitive, caring, and gentle; social and unpredictable with a great zeal for life; active, responsive, and highly aware of the physical world.<P>The most important thing to ESFPs is freedom to be spontaneous, have fun, and enjoy the company of others. <P>Gee no one would guessed any of these <P>Have fun!<P>Gina<p>[This message has been edited by w.g.up.h (edited June 05, 2000).]

I'm an INTJ...see below.<P><BR>(Introvert, Intuitive, Thinker, Judger)<P>People of this type tend to be: autonomous, aloof, and intellectual; imaginative, innovative, and unique; critical, analytical, and logical; intellectually curious, driven to learn and increased their competence and knowledge; socially cautious and reserved; organized and definitive.<P>Yikes!!!<P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com

So weird. Just had this discussion with a friend of 30+ yrs. Discussion about personalities, extravert vs. introvert and also personality changes depending on who your with. Made me think about comments on this board where many of you have commented about your ws being a different person towards you when they are with the ow/om. Of course my friends situation is totally different but the discussion I had with her reminded me of this forum. All her life she was an introvert. High school she only had a friend or 2 etc. It wasn't that she was unfriendly, just painfully shy and she did everything she could NOT to draw attention to herself. She married and had two kids. During this time we were not as close and deep because of the demands of a family but we still got together sometimes. She seemed happy. Her life was filled with her job during the day and her family at night. Her husband was a friendly guy (kinda between and introvert and an extravert I'd say). Her husband left her for ow and she went through a divorce. Eventually she started dating this other guy who was and is very much and extravert. I think part of that was what she was attracted too. I noticed while they were dating it was her that called me more often and she'd chat and chat. She invited me to go out with the "girls" at her work and it was nice to see her so outgoing and involved with so many friends. She's now married to that guy and when we get together it's weird. Her personality change is so intense it actually changes her appearance. In fact, she won the most changed at her class reunion! I asked her about it and she said that she had changed because of Richard (her 2nd husband). Can a person really change your personality? I don't think it was because she's happy now and wasn't before because she was like that before her first marriage and was happy in her first marriage. Maybe self-esteem? Maybe his personality complimenting hers? But, how can one person totally change who you had been your whole life? I know some of you are deep thinkers on here. What's your take???

Good question.<P>There was an article in the Boston Globe last weekend about the brain. The article states that the last brain development phase happens during the transition from teenage years to mid twenties (in general) This final development brings to the person the ability to see gray from black and white, and a host of other maturity issues. I didn't read it, but what if, people are late in this development?<P>What if there needs to be a trigger mechanism to make this occur? What if someone, and I use myself as an example, follows the family tradition, or the parental desires, until he/she finally makes up his/her own mind on how live life, and be yourself?<P>My MLC was leaving my father's occupational dream, and following mine. Happened at 30, going to get an MBA. Maturity came, clear thinking came, growing up changed. I wanted to get divorced, acted it out, but also realized I was running away from my "old" life which was just following someone else.<P>It took an event to grow up. With my W, she is going through this right now. Although, the outcome is currently D, she could never confidently answer questions about why she was a teacher, and what she wanted to do with her life. Recently, she has started to figure it out, and the event was our turning forty and having some pretty calm, but looking back, LB conversations, (in hind sight, but I did the best I could trying to converse what we were missing, etc without attacking, but it was not the kind her personality can handle very well.)<P>I think that is why MLC occur to certain types of people. That why I think that career changes causes lots of tension/divorce. I knew when I got married, it wasn't right, but I could not put my finger on it. I told my best friend, and he just laughed. I went through with the wedding because I lacked the self confidence of who I really was/ what I really wanted to do, that I was able to stand up for my self.<P>My educational maturation was high, my social education was missing from age 12-22. I am a social oaf for not going to school with girls/women for 9 years, and then working without women for 8 more.<P>People who are introverted actually think more, and reason better, and are less superficial, and learn from their mistakes.<BR>People who are extroverts rely more on others and do not learn about themselves as much.<P>We can't grow without thinking. And thinking is what makes us into our real selves. It makes us happy for ourselves, thinking and understanding ourselves is what Harley teaches.<P>thl

You know, it's interesting about the change in personality. I think when I was younger I was definitely an extrovert, but as I've gotten older, I've become more of an introvert. I'm less opinionated (or at least less verbal about my opinions). I think my change is simply a maturity issue. As I've gotten older, I've become more reflective and less reactive. <P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com

BonnieSept,<P>I can tell you from my experience that yes,a sp can change your personality...or in my case I do belive it to be true.<P>I am a very outgoing person,happy all the time takes a lot to get me down.I am very friendly,make friends easily and can get along w/anybody.I can have conversation w/anybody and about anything.....I might not know a whole lot about a certain "topic" but I am a curious person and am always willing to learn. <P>My H is a introvert,deep thinker,thinks things through before he talks about anything,he is very moody.....we have a joke w/us that we both agree that he has his "monthly" just like us women!LOL.....<P>We have been together for 15 years.......our problems started after our first child was born.<P>Our relationship was definatly on the "Recreational Companionship"......we had fun together,that stoped after our children,after we had the scond one it became non exsistent! .....(I take full blame on that part,was so into the "Mommy Mode" that I really kinda left him by the road side.)<P>He would come home......I was a stay at home Mom.......so really no out side contact w/another women.I really lost my self.He would come home in a piss poor mood,and after years of all of this,I became more like him........<P>It took our "Blow Up".......for me to realize<BR>that I had become a different person.I do belive that I probably also went through a depression.(now,anybody that knows me says no,way that would never happen.)It did.<P>After a lot of soul searching and finding this site has brought me "out" and I am back to my "old" self........THANK GOD!.....I didn't like the person that I was.<P>More importantly my H didn't either!!!!!<BR>I think that he still sees me as that other person.<P>To WIFTT,<P>I don't know if you could say that "All"<BR>extroverts,rely on other people to learn about them selves.It maybe true in some cases,but I do think that it has to do w/who that person is,they childhood,upbringing and so on.<P>Do you agree??????......could this be a debate thing??????.....I have to warn you,I was the captain and school champion of my debate teem!.....Ha,LOL....... <P>Gina<P>

Gina,<P>I didn't intend to mean all, but i just think that if you don't think, reflect, you have a harder time being yourself, and changing to the situation.<P>Extroverts look to the outside for something, and I assume if is what the introverts look to the inside for. But as a mom, its also important to have contacts with others in your same position, so that you don't feel alone and isolated. You can be influenced by the company you keep.<P>My W has noone to talk to in her position, and has said that the women in her position that she knows are bimboes. Yikes, the people she does talk to are the ones who <BR>live with alcoholics and have affairs, or get divorced. Her one family W left for a year, and she didn't have anyone to talk with that could keep her sane.<P>One needs to have interaction with similar people, to maintain the like, and to go through the same problems together, to have like support. That's why this board is so important, at least to me.<P>thl

WIFTT,<P>You are absolutly right.<P>I loved staying at home........when I do something I do it big and great!! <BR>(no, ego showing here! )<P>Even tho I did enjoy it I also didn't really realize what was happening to me.<P>I am actually really glad that I have gone through all of this......I will now have to experience to teach my children.How to not loose sight of yourself,friends,and most important your SP.I really do wish I could replay the last 4-5 years,don't know if it would really change anything,I would like to think that it would!<P>I have always learned from my mistakes and I never make the same ones twice.<P>So I know.......that the next relationship I will be in.......I will be bound for "Glory".........Ha,well,a girl can dream! <P>P.S........when my youngest,was 3....I said that I was done at home,I had to get out,and get that interaction that I was missing so badly.Been working now for a year.....and loving it!!!......I am better now,not so stressd out,and I am able to relate and interact much better w/my children.(the first couple of years were great.but after 6 years it was definatly time!....Whew )<P>Take it easy...........<P>Gina<P>