My fiance and I will be getting married in less than 2 months. Over the past couple of weeks it seems that we have been fighting almost constantly. Is this just normal pre-wedding stress?

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<br>I'm starting to think I have a ghost writer out there in cyber-land. You see, you've posted my question! (we'll discuss royalties later ; ) )
<p>Anyway, I for one am going through the exact same thing so don't feel alone. I've got my own thread going here; you may want to check for parallels. Be warned however, my finger is poised over panic button.
<p>I do understand that some other couples fight hard and nearly split up as a result. Yet some seem to blissfully walk through the whole process as I'm sure you are aware. But this does not answer your question, really.
<p>I'd be happy to offer you more opinions (and they're only that) if you give some mention to things like your age(s), what you're fighting over, and other factors you feel are relevant. 'Til then read on.
<p>I'm 34 and we're fighting over: the planning process and how much I'm not planning, where we're gonna live, how we're gonna live, how often were going to schlep up to Bean Town to see her parents, and everything else. We're very on edge and small things set her off and in an instant she goes from sweet to hissing cobra with an attitude. Basically, if I question something she feels strongly about, I'm on thin ice. Every course of action I take invites criticism.
<p>Of course I tend to react to things she does (or doesn't do) which send the message "I'm too wrapped up in meeting my own needs to be concerned with yours." This is fairly common.
<p>My Analysis:
<br>In general, I think it is all to easy to dig in the heels to preserve those things we had before marriage which are threatened. Indeed there is much to loose if things don't go right.
<p>We all want our needs met in a relationship and we want to make damn sure they will get met in a marriage. The last few months before a wedding are often seen as the last chance to work out the "yours/mine" details and strike deals and understandings. And if the spouse to be acts in a way that suggests we may not get what we want/hope for/deserve we may get a bit nervous if not off-the-deep-end crazy.
<p>Hope this helps. And I wish you the best of luck.
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this is very normal..planning a wedding and going through the daily ritual is very stressful. All will be ok...just realize,,,everything cant be perfect and not everything can be YOUR way. Let hime put his 2cents in and offer to give him things to do, it'll be ok....let him take some responsability for the wedding too..or the apt hunting or....anything..give him a job and let him go at it with his own thoughts.

Well, thanks for replying, but the wedding is off. It just wasn't the right thing for either of us, and I think God was using the fighting to kind of show me that.