I don't know if any of you remember me but I used to post in the "General Questions" forum for a long time. I first joined on here in May 1999. To cut a long story short H started affair in May 1998, moved out, moved in 3 times, moved out last September and is still in his apartment. I tried Plan A, Plan B and all my own made up plans. Bottom line now is that I have filed for divorce. He was apparently shocked when I did it, but I couldn't take anymore. My kids were suffering, I was suffering. I don't feel good about it but he was going to be sitting on the fence for the next 10 years still telling me he didn't know what he wanted. I basically made his decision for him and I don't know that he is all that happy with it. I know everyone says not to file for divorce, let him do it - but I had had enough. My daughter(11)has now been put on anti-depressants and sees a psychiatrist and psychologist often. I had to start putting them first. <P>Anyway, I guess I am here now with the divorced/divorcing. I am not sure of the whole process since I am not from this country but my lawyer is helping me there. I haven't written in here for a long time since I knew the OW was reading my posts. I don't care anymore if she is so I am back. I need all the support and all the friends I can get at the moment. It is so tough. I do still love my H, I just don't like him very much at the moment. Anyway, just wanted to say hi. I do recognise a lot of the old names here, sorry you are all still here but I know it is a great place for support.<BR>

Hi...sorry you have to come here too. I am filing for divorce as well because I just couldn't take it anymore. No one else can tell you how long to hang in there. That is a decision only you can make. Heaven knows, most of us here have done everything we can think of. I know I have. At some point, you have to start moving away from this junk and moving on. There's nothing wrong with that.<P><P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com