Has anyone else had this situation. If yes, what was the outcome?<P>My H and I have few real problems. We've been married for 13.5 years. We lost our intimacy due to work in different cities. Living apart for 3 years plus the intense pressure on my husband to manage a 4 million $ company, caused him to have a mini-nervous breakdown (he is 37). He told me in March that he wants a divorce. I told him that if it is what he wants, then he has to do the legal work. I am not willing. It has been 3 months since then and we have had minimal contact. So far he hasn't filed for divorce or separation. I am just hoping that giving him time to work through the stress and back up for the life he missed while being a corporate whiz kid, will eventually lead him back to me. But meanwhile, I feel like I am illegally separated. I have none of the benefits of marriage and yet I have the paper.<P>About 10 days ago, he called for the first time and told me that he had made mistakes (ie. wasting money) and was going to try again to straighten up his life. I don't want to make any mistakes so I don't know when I should switch from Plan B to Plan A, or a modified combination of both Plans.<P>Karel

tegan,<P>Mixing a Plan A and a Plan B... is usually not a good idea!<P>One or the other....<BR>...usually starting with some time in Plan A!<P>Check out my <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000176.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan A - 101 (2nd ed.)</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum30/HTML/000177.html" TARGET=_blank>Plan B - 101 (2nd ed.)</A>.<P> <P>Jim