This is week of bad anniversaries, June 28th is the anniversary of my first post. While I've met some great people here, it is unfortunate this is where we all had to meet.<P>Then July 2nd is the one year anniversary of the day my now x left the us.<P>I think I can get through these. I'll be busy this week with work and kids stuff. For the 4th, I'll be at x's sisters place. We were invited to spend the long weekend and we are going.

RWD,<BR>As I'm someone who is hitting both 1st & 2nd anniversary dates, I say put the thoughts of them away. Live for today, look to tomorrow.<P>Easier said than done, I know.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10

Yesterday was an anniversary for me as well. <P>It was 6 months since Xmas. For the first time since this happened, I didn't dwell on it, think about it, nor beat myself up over it.<P>Anniversaries, to me, always meant something. Now its just another stage in the whole affair trauma. <P>I know you will both get thru it, and so will I because we have been thru so much worse. <P>Sending strength and prayers,<BR>Dana<BR>

It will be 1 yr for me for the separation next month....<BR>One thing I know is that those last few months trying to reconcile were so exhausting for me...it just killed me, a little every day. Hearing him say, "I haven't talked to her, I told you I wouldn't" then finding out he did....each day my love died ......<BR>I would never tell anyone that they shouldn't do all possible to save their marriage, because I tried for two years, but I can say that now looking back on all of it, I am glad that pain is behind me. <BR>My anniversary came and went, the divorce came and went, all of us have had birthdays that have came and went....next month is the last anniversary I will think about..<BR>In the middle of all this s***, there is light at the end of the tunnel!<P>------------------<BR>Susan

Hey Bob,<P>Do I ever know what you mean. Next month sucks worse than life itself. My Bday is July 2nd [40]. Val's is July 8th [30]. Our wedding anniversary is the 22nd [5th]. We got married at a JP at 1500. It feels like yesterday.<P>If you could only program your mind to ignore the hurt. Toni's [FXW] Bday is August 13. My first marriage was October 23 at 1800. Some things I can't forget.<P>Maybe I'm not supposed to. I have learned a lot in this lifetime. I'm not an expert, just smarter.<P>Hey, these dates mean something to us and always will. That's how I look at it. I do not regret either of my marriages.<P>The first produced two wonderful children that I am so proud of. The second gave me years of happiness. I would not have given either up. I am glad to have had the experience to enjoy both.<P> <P>------------------<BR>"It's not over till we say it's over! Was it over when the Germans bombed Pearl Harbor? H*ll no!" Blutto...Animal House 1984<P>Wishing us all the Best.<P>Medic