Hi all,<p>I want to thank everyone for all the great advice I am absorbing from reading this site.<br>The responses I have read make me feel not alone in my struggle and give me more strength. <p>If my wife does fall back in love with me what should I do about wanting to have a baby with her because she does not want to have a baby anymore. Remember, before we got married she wanted to have a baby with me, but now she says she definitely does not.<p>My biggest fear would be to get her to fall back in love with me only to have to get into a huge fight over having a baby, leading to an eventual split up. I have not talked to her honestly about this whole baby issue because I am sacred that it may become too much for her to deal with and than I definitely will lose her. Should I bring this issue up now or wait to see if I can win her heart back again? Does anyone have any advice or suggestions?<p>Pete<br>

Pete,<p>I think that your safest bet will be to delay any talks about baby issues until your marriage is recovered and your wife is firmly 'in love' with you.<p>At that time, bring up the discussion and follow the Policy of Joint Agreement. The decision to have a child is the most important decision that you'll make, and it should be made together.

I agree, don't bring up the baby issue now. It will only pressure her. But do you know if she doesn't want to have a kid with YOU or she just doesn't want to have kids?<br>

Thanks for your responses. <p>My wife says that she does not want to have another child and says that I would make a great father because I am a good step-father to her son. <p>Pete

OH--that's right---I think I remember that now from another of your posts. Sounds like she is doubting her ability as a mother. I know when I was deep in my depression I doubted my abilities as a mom, and thought of how unfair I was to have brought kids in the world to a mom like me!! I wish I had more advice for you.