Hello.<P>I have been reading posts here for a couple of days and I think I am in the right place.<BR>I need your advice.<BR>My husband of 10 years have been having an internet affair with a girl much younger than him. It's been going on for over a year and now, he wants a divorce. I just got served with papers and I am on the brink.<BR>What am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to believe that this little liar from the net managed to take him away from me?<BR>Should I fight for him or just get an attorney?<BR>PITY that I haven't found this web site earlier. Now I see that we had a chance to work things out....<P>annoyed<BR>

annoyed,<BR> I don't know how long you've known about your H's affair.Have you gone over to the"Just Found Out"board,and read NSR's welcome post?It will guide you to a wealth of information.Any other????'s,feel free to ask.Take care.<P> ~~Murph

Thanks Murphy, I read the welcome, and I have gone through most of the articles on the MB web site.<BR>Just it seems to be too late for everything. My husband moved out [his 5 say work week away from home, first business related, then turned into occasion to continue the affair] and all I have here are divorce papers. <BR><crying><BR>Sorry, have a really bad day today. <P>annoyed

Annoyed, <BR>Not sure if you are the one who emailed me, but give us more of your story. Did you just find out about the affair? How was your marriage before this?? Do you want to save you marriage??<BR>First things first. Take care of yourself. If you have kids, be careful what you say to them. The less said now, the better. Take a big breath and try to think rationally. <BR>Respond to the D papers with the help of a GOOD atty. <BR>If you want your marraige, let your H know. Read up on Plan A.Get advice from a good counselor.<BR>Internet affairs seldom work...most affairs fizzle out over a two year time frame. <P>------------------<BR>Susan

annoyed,<BR> Well,if you read most of the info,you know about the plan A&B thing.Unfortunately,like a lot of us,the marriage seemed to be over,but nobody informed us. <BR> You need to do a lot of soul-searching,and decide if you want to try and stall the divorce,or at least make sure it's fair.<BR> Do you think he wants out of the marriage for other reasons,or just because he thinks he's in-love with somebody else? A lot of times,these are an exit affair to leave the marriage.I doubt that his relationship with her will last,but he may just not want to be married anymore.A possible MLC?<BR> Do you feel you had major problems in your marriage?Did he try to talk to you about them?Sometimes,the problems don't become major until it's too late.<BR> Sorry you're having a bad day. <P> ~~Murph <BR>

Thank you all, it's nice to know that there's somebody out there to help.<P>I learned about the affair approx. 4 months ago, but I was fooling myself that it was only a short term thing. <BR>There is a lot of my fault in this, I work as a security consultant and I have to travel a lot, so there were times, when I was away from home for a couple of weeks. Right now I am away again, and I got the divorce papers in the mail.<BR>Tom [my husband] called me before and said that he's going to file, but then, he called last week and said that he won't and that he loves me and that this internet affair was a mistake. I was going to come back to the US this week, but right now, I don't know. <P>Guys, I need to go and try to get some sleep, have to go to work tomorrow, SIGH. <BR>Thank you very much for your replies, you, kind of, pulled me out of the state of shock. Thanks again.<P>annoyed<BR>

annoyed,<P>Keep checking in here and look at what others have gone through. I was also "pulled" out of the shock and depression when I saw how typical my situation was.<P>RRunRR<BR><P>------------------<BR>Almost anything can be undone or forgiven.

Dear annoyed,<BR>my h also had an internet affair.Unfortuneately he is now living with her.We are in the process of divorce.Iam so sorry for your pain.Take care of yourself.soon2bx

Guys, <P>I am sorry for not posting, but I just came back from work and I have to go back there in 5 hours [so much for 4th of July when you work outside of the country].<BR>I'll post my story when I get back.<BR>Thank you all for your support. <P><BR>annoyed