Feeling down today. First I'm sensing something is bothering the lady I have been seeing. We went to the movies Wed nite and she was pretty quiet afterwards. She said she wasn't feeling well so I have left it go. But she "seems" different since then. I guess I'll have to ask. I guess my sensors are better at picking these things now.<P>Secondly, I talked to x. She told me she could take the kids next week since she is orientation all next week. I don't mind since she would be working dayshift and would have to leave kids with om, so it is better that they are with me.<P>X also wanted to discuss upcoming events for the kids(d going to bball and s going to grandma's) and travel arrangments. I said I would take, she said okay since she had "plans" for that day. She can't pick them up as she has to work that day. So I have made all the arrangements for the kids events.<P>X also told me she is "taking" the kids to Lake Erie next Sat. Knowing her, she couldn't find the lake by herself, so I know her and om are taking the kids to "their" place. There is nothing I can do about it but it bothers me just the same, plus the way she said, she is "taking" them.<P>Also my d told me today x is taking them to the Outer Banks next year for vacation. That was a vacation we had talked about for years. Ouch!<P>Also I got banged up playing softball last night so my body is aching today.<P>X also said she couldn't make s's game tonite as she has plans. Also she can't come to d's game tommorrow as she has to work.<BR>I still don't understand her mindset. I guess I never will.<P>Bob

Bob, <BR>Hey, we all have bad days!! But now this banged up body.. maybe you need to take up golf, bowling........<P>In regards to your friend, I would consider giving her a call and seeing how she responds..maybe she was having a bad day too!!<P>My x told me he can't take the kids this weekend as well. He told them he has a job interview in San Diego.....isn't it funny that there is a RB tournament there as well??<BR>He only takes them when it is convienient for him. My friend and I were going to Seattle this weekend so I had to make other arrangements for the kids. This isn't the first time, I am sure it won't be the last. <P>------------------<BR>Susan

Hi RWD -<P>Sorry you had a rough day.....<P>How's the achy body today? <P>Did you get a chance to talk with the lady you are seeing? Mood any better?<P>About X.....still in self-absorption mode sounds like. I know what you mean about the Outer Banks trip.....I still get pangs when I think of "our" trip to DisneyWorld that we had planned on our wedding day to take on our 10th Anniv.<BR>Instead I am getting a trip to Divorceland!!!!!<P>Life can give a good kick, eh?<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba<BR>

Sheba,<P>Would it be better to D before or after the Disneyland trip? One year, almost to the week, after our Disneyland trip, which was great, (at least for me it was, and STBX said it was also) she wants out.<P>Now, ask yourself, which would be worse? after a GREAT trip? which IMO, makes even less sense, or without the trip?<P>thl<P>