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Am I nuts or what? i left work and sat at the mailbox till it got picked up and retrieved my divorce papers. I cant hurt her or my kids I care too much. I apoligised for laying the guilt trip on her and she forgave me and let me explain that i was dumb. O well just thought you'd get a laugh and I feel much better.<br>Ken
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Ken, I'm glad you did that. It's a hard thing, your position, but you have to be satisfied that you've done everything you can to save your marriage. Try to keep those love busters under control - that's the first step ... it isn't necessarily going to fix everything, but it makes dealing with each other so much less stressful.<p>Good luck ... I'm glad they let you retrieve your papers from the mail...<p>terri
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KenS,<p>I just wanted to say I identify with what you're doing. Men like to feel as if they're in charge in some minimal way. But nobody likes to feel like they aren't in control of things.<br>You mentioned recently running behind your wife like a "stinking little dog". I have used similar phrases. My wife seems to need nothing while I'm the one who keeps getting emotionally zinged, and I've felt that I'm just like a puppy siiting at her heels waiting for the next dog buscuit to be thrown. It is so humiliating.<br>But we love them, we want to keep our families, so we submit to the humiliation. I hope that someday the lessons we learn from it will be put to good use.
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Bruce and Ken, any woman and mother should be so fortunate and happy to have such dedicated loving men to be so willing and trying so hard. I think you are both great people .
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Ken,<br> l am so glad to hear this!!! Whoohoo! now try to do what terri says and work on those love busters! Easy for me to say to someone else! HAHA!! <br>Glenn,<br> l still relate so much to everything you say although in my case it is me who feels like you,and ,my H like your wife. l guess it is starting to get to me more because the more l read this site,the more envious l get that there really are great,caring men out there who would do anything to save their families. l agree with cndy that your wives should feel lucky. Wish our husbands would feel the same about us.<br>ali
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Ali,<p>I get envious too when I read the posts of the women here who are fighting to keep their husbands even after they've had affairs. I've never even wanted to do that to my wife. I find her 100% satisfying in every way.<p>Cndy,<br>I'll give you the phone number and you can tell my wife what a great guy I am. <s>
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Well last night I called my wife and explained myself, she told me she understood. She also said no more of those getting back together calls or she was going to hang up and I said deal. We hung up on a happy note understanding each other. I still feel guilty because her mom sent me a nasty e-mail stating not to call her anymore and dont call her mom. I wonder where my wife got the running away from problems from. I did send her a nice letter but dont know if she has got it. I also sent my wife flowers telling her to have a special week end. I hope she dosent mind.<br>Ken
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Kens,<br>Good for you. Taking a little control will make you feel a whole lot better. Keep on fighting.<p>
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Ken,<p>I think you did the right thing. Go with your heart. Know that we are all here for you. Always. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <p>Steph
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Ken, I have my hat off to you and and only hope that things work out for you.<br>Take care,<p>With admiration<br>Fionn
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