I would appreciate your comments very much,<BR>(I'm a man)<BR>Last week my wife told me she did not wanted to be<BR>with me anymore. we married a year and a half ago<BR>(after 3 years being together) and we came to US a<BR>year ago to star a new life. like 6 months later he<BR>decided to be alone. (there is no other person). she<BR>said I did not do enough for the relation (she says<BR>she did almost everything), that there wasn't<BR>communication, and that when I tried to change it was<BR>too late. I'm doing an MBA in the US. I feel this is<BR>kind of unfair. she was not able to make me realize<BR>how the whole thing was affecting her (also I did not<BR>figure it out) and was not able to help me change. I<BR>tried to convince her but nothing. She decided to be<BR>alone and think. <BR>I have accepted my mistakes and responsibility.<BR>The last 2 months in the US before going to our<BR>country to visit our family was painful. Since she<BR>decided to be along we lived in our house but she<BR>acted as if we were not together (came late, did not<BR>use ring, cold, etc). Then I went to our country 2<BR>weeks before her and when she arrived mantained her<BR>position. So I told her I will leave her alone for 1<BR>month aprox. I called her after that time and she said<BR>she still wants to be alone, it's over <BR>she says. <BR>We talked yesterday and she does not want to try. we<BR>have not talked about councelling.<BR>why she does not want to try it together? It is<BR>difficult to understand. I can't just say: ok, let's<BR>move on. what can I do?<BR>Should I continue to try????<BR>Why if she knew how I was when we marry, she does not<BR>accept me as I am now? I think that their reasons are<BR>not enough to me. I belive that marriage implies a big<BR>commitment. to step over even worst situations.<BR>How can I find hope and do things just for myself. It<BR>is so difficult to not share everything that yuo do,<BR>even small things. I feel SO empty. It is possible to<BR>find someone else and find real and extraordinary love<BR>again?<BR>There is not someone else (we are honest) and when I said if she wanted divorce she told me: "that's sounds hard, but, if YOU want that..."<BR>this can give me hope?<BR>thanks a lot<BR>AB<BR>

Don't give up. stick around here and read other people's stories of courage, disappointment, reconciliation, and joy. There are so many things that challenge a relationship. There aren't many that can't be fixed and don't respond to love. <P>It's very hard to move to another country and adjust to a different culture. Maybe she just feels abandoned and alone. Maybe she just needs to feel she is as important as the rest of your life? <P>I know Plan A sounds simple. I know it is hard to do when you feel neglected and unloved, but it really is a loving way to find your way back into your marriage and back to the love you once shared.<P>Please try it. Don't give up.

Thanks a lot Popeye,<BR>I just feel that I'm going to hurt myself if I continue to try. but it is worth it. I'm afraid of make her tired and saturated by me if I call her again. do you thinh she will feel that??? or is better to leave her alone for a while?<BR>thanks

noone else?