This was my second marriage. Another one down the tube. I have this sinking feeling deep inside. Like losing my breath. I just can't believe what happened. I am a professional woman, why can't I bounce back. I have a question. He said, "Do you want to split things up now or later?" Everything is in my name. I bought everything with MY money. I came into this marriage with $40,000. Everything that we have now that isnt paid for, was bought on credit by me. Will the judge make me sell everything and split the money? I settled a lawsuit on the very day we were married. The check was made out to me in my maiden name from an ongoing lawsuit that had been drawn out over a year before he was even in the picture. Surely the judge won't take my house and car away from me. He came into the marriage with NOTHING. I provided for everything. He paid part of the bills for about 10 months. How can he take anything from me? I worked for it all. Can someone give me some insight as to what might happen? His name is on the car first, but I paid 1/2 down on the house and my name comes first. Everything else is in my name. Except for the utilities. What do I do about that too? How do I take his name off of things? Without having to open new accounts and make deposits again? What do you do after they leave? With my first marriage, we both left with nothing. So, I didnt have this dilema. He made about $10,000 while we were married. I brought in over $50,000. How can the judge split it right down the middle? It just wouldn't be fair.

TX<P>I understand....You will bounce back...it just takes a while. Eventually you can breathe too.<P>I am also in Texas and going through divorce. I am the one who made all the money, things are in my name. Your utilities should be easy enough to switch. I am not sure about your vehicle. If the property is in your name, you are ok. Mine is. <P>My spouse left with OM. SO....I have made it clear to her, that was her choice, so all she gets are personal items. She refused counseling or an official seperation. Worse comes to worse, if he left you....file on him for desertion. In TX there is a 60day waiting period for ANY divorce from the time you file. We are doing non-contested. If you can get him to agree to that, it would be your best bet. <P>The more lawyers get involved the uglier the battle becomes, I think.<P>I will keep you posted on what I learn, and god bless and best of luck to you.<P>Ben

<BR>LIT,<P>See this URL:<BR> <A HREF="http://www.divorcenet.com/tx/txart05.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.divorcenet.com/tx/txart05.html</A> <P>Texas is a community property state. Anything you owned before the marriage is yours, but unless that legal settlement on the day of your marriage concerns a personal injury suit, you'll be splitting that, too.<P>As far as you earning tons of money and your H earning little, it doesn't matter. Would it be fair for a SAHM mom to get no property at all during a divorce, just because her philandering husband made all the money? While it never seems fair if you're the one paying, community property laws were designed to help women, IMO.<P>Bystander

Thanks for your help. I did make an attempt to let him know what things he could have. He told everyone I threw him out and I DID NOT. He packed his own things and I did not throw his things out in the yard. I told him it was his decision and HE packed his own clothes. I never touched them. It is amazing to hear the lies he has told. I am so sickened by him.