Obviously, he isnt going to call to work things out. Should I give it more time or should I be the one who makes the call? Like I said in my previous 5000 posts, it has only been ALMOST 3 days. What if I wait too long and he isnt interested anymore? Do I really want him back? I am so lost. I feel like a little baby who has just lost it's mommy. Tell me to shut up if ya want to. Some of you have a year behind you. How do you know when not to try anymore? How do you know when it is OVER? We havent spoken. I have no clue what he is thinking. Either he is thinking that I am mad at him OR he is thinking that he hates me.

I know how hard this is for you.<P>My W left 2 weeks ago today. 3 days before my birthday......nice present eh?<P>I didnt hear from her for all weekend, and a friend she worked with called and told me the guy she was with gave her the creeps and rape vibes.......I freaked out and called everyone I knew looking for her.<P>Result: Monday morning she called and chewed me out royally for trying to "control" her life.<P>I know how bad you are hurting......and I am no expert......afterall, we are going to get a divorce.......but I would let him call.......<P>Today she called again to gripe at me about filing, and when I reminded her that I was ok with the divorce now she got awfully quiet. I think she was expecting me to chase her and beg her forever.......now she is having to stand on her own two feet.<P>Perhaps he needs to stand up too, as it sounds like he has been leaning on you way too long.<P>Just my opinion.<P>Take care and god bless..........and breathe.