<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Ok, I'm back again for someone elses opinions . Ex has visitation per the divorce decree<BR> that says "at reasonable times and places" He works evenings and so does OW,(now<BR> wife) they get home somewhere between 2:30 and 3:00 am. He gets the kids every<BR> other weekend and one day each week so the kids can see him about every 3-4 days<BR> (the visitation schedule was my idea because he was sporadic in seeing them. Well, he<BR> was suppose to come at 10am but wouldn't show til 11 or noon , well because of my<BR> work schedule and a friend who helps me out. I asked him to be here between 8:15 and<BR> 8:30 , my friend she works nights and gets off and watches the kids until he gets here<BR> because I have to be to work by 7 am. Well, he frequently is and hour or more late.<BR> Today I told him it was his responsibility , the same as reporting to work on time to be<BR> here to pick the girls up on time, in the future if he wasn't here within 15 minutes past<BR> time then other arrangements for the kids would be made and his visitation would have<BR> to wait until next scheduled day. He notified me in writing that in the future he wishes to<BR> pick up the kids at 4am on weekdays of visitation and 2:30 am on Fridays of his<BR> weekend. Am I being bias or what, I don't want my kids to be up at that time of night<BR> nor do I feel it unreasonable for him to be here 1 day a week on a little less sleep to<BR> spend some time with his kids. During the week he brings them home by 2pm and on the<BR> weekend 8:30 pm on sunday. What do all of you do with visitation times??<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Brought the question over here. Hope you don't mind.<P>I would not do anything that is not in the order. You can have your custody order amended to give him a 1/2 hour leeway. I wouldn't go any shorter than this. I doubt whether a judge would approve it. If you don't, he could make a case that you are interfering with his visitation. That could get you in a lot of trouble.<P>I would not change the pickup time unless he gets the order changed. I agree that this is not in the children's best interests, and suspect the court would think so, too.
