Okay...I was reading this post..and I am actually angered at the fact that you are<BR>so ADAMENTLY refusing your childs education<BR>because of your Stubborn and Selfishness!!<BR> Your child has suffered greatly because<BR>of the divorce already..No longer having<BR>both parents there to comfort and hold him when he is scared, no longer having both<BR>parents there when he goes to bed at night..<BR>no longer having much of what he has known all of his life..so NOW YOUR GOING TO TAKE<BR>AWAY his friends and the school and teachers<BR>he has grown close to..his only true stability???? How selfish can you be?? Personally I think your an [censored]..and I don't even know you..and if I were your soon to be<BR>x with your attitude towards your childs welfare, and stability..I'd take your butt to the cleaners!!! Just to keep that security in<BR>my childs life..Just because you and your x<BR>do not get along does not mean you have to <BR>take it out on the child..so what YOU pay half..she's paying half too..so that your child can stay in at least one stable enviroment!! Stop thinking about what you won't have..and start looking at whats best for your child!!! You don't have to give that money to your ex..you can op to pay the school directly if your afraid she won't use<BR>it for the schooling...

I am biased and a female but please understand that you posted a question and all who have answered are trying to help you find a way to live with a situation that is not stressfree, to be polite.<BR>Your son is (or should be the most important aspect) of how you and your wife sort this all out. In the settlement, money should not be the most important thing....but how to make this new situation work the best for your son.<P>You NEED to be a part of his life and I am glad that you want to be (many NCP do not), however, this is not a competition. Things have to be sorted out in your son's best interests. Your stbx has made a fair offer re visitation, and if you prove in actions that your son's welfare, and not punishing wife. is what you are doing, I am sure that in the fullness of time, there will be flexibility...it just takes time and actions to see how it all works....and DO NOT INSIST on making it NUTS for your son due to your work schedule. <P>As far as CS and private school education....you both agreed to this ewducation, why should your stbx get stuck with the full bill???? If you were paying half before, you need to continue this. It has nothing to do with an award of CS which pays for food , clothing and basic needs (not wants which you and stbx chose to do for your son.) Divorce is hard enough on children without disrupting their lives even more.....please , please think of your son...in fact put yourself in ypour sons shoes and decide if you are being "fair" to him in your desires?