When I met my wife for the first time, I was attracted to her, and she to me. I don't know if there were any "butterflies" or not, but we are now married. Marriage takes work, and time, and patience. She's 4 months pregnant, and when I come home I do all the cooking. We both work full time, professional jobs. WORK is the keyword here. WORK in marriage, WORK at being a team, is what it is all about. The benefits do happen over a period of time. The more you put into the relationship, the more you'll receive. BUT BUT BUT! If your partner isn't "into" putting what's required into the marriage, then find someone who can. Most men are stupid, and most women are whiney. Find the one's that aren't.

I resently read a posting written by Dianne on 12/4/98 where by she had a stradegy on how to make things better as far as her feelings for her husband. I wanted to know how things are going with you and your husband? Are your feelings returning?

Sherry, and all others who are hurting over this topic. My prayers are with you. I dont want to add to the many wonderful posts I have read here. But there was one post by Mark that greatly offended me.<p>MARK: I have lived in the South all my life with the exception of being born in Kansas, and I have never met anyone, or knew anyone who had sex with their mothers or siblings or cousins etc... I am sick of the jokes about this topic and the South!! Oh I am sure that there are people here who do particpate in incest here in the South, but I am doubly sure that it happens up NORTH, EAST, and WEST as well. I think it was very distasteful of you to even mention that in your post. I dont think it helped Shery one bit and as a Southerner you offended me. I dont expect a reply to this and I apologize to Shery for expressing my anger on her thread. But at least I feel better for airing my feelings.