I am reposting this since we had to take it off yesterday. My husband and I have been married for 3 years. He is a warm, loving,involved, committed guy. Wants to stay by my side in all his free time and we are heavily involved in several activities and a small part time business. So all that is fine. We have a difficult sexual relationship. Even from the beginning he would say he was not sexually attracted to me and it was just not fair since he was in love for the first time in his life. ( we are both early 50's) I am 5'2, long strawberry blond very curly hair (which he loves) and wt.125. So I think my looks are ok. I get plenty of perks from all the guys I work with and basically feel fine about myself. So it is not effecting my self esteem. I feel it is his problem. Early on I guess I should have took the flight avenue, but then the situation would turn around and the sex would be really good for a while. When I ask him about those times he says he was compelled. Well he might say that but he seemed to enjoy it to me. I donn't understand why he is so close in every other way. Wants to sleep completely curled up with me etc. I am feeling more and more distant and not always able to give the warm gushys he wants. I think??? What is all this about if it never goes anywhere.<p>Any ideas? His health is fine. I see no problem with erections. He just seems to have an aversion. My counselor has suggested it may be the "Madonna/Whore" syndrome. He gets sexually excited with the sleaze type but not for his wife whom he loves. He was single for 10 years before we married.<p>Didi<p>