Ok........I know she is crazy.....I know I am better off letting her go. I am ready to.<P>But I did something REALLY stupid today. I saw him.....the fed ex guy....he was in our parking lot and I followed him to next time point and got out of my truck.<P>I told him I knew who he was and that he could have her.<P>He wrote my plates down, and I turned and left.<P>Honest, that is all that happened. Can he do anything to me for this?<P>I wanted to know what he looked like for my own sanity, and in case someone starts harassing me or hurting my animals. Dont trust her at all. Now I can give description to all my neighbors of him.<P>Am I loosing it too? or is it natural to want to know?<P>I am sooooooo mad still. And he is an ugly old fart.......?!?!?!?!....apparantly she is just using him as a stepping stone, just as me.<P>Need to breath.

Ben,<P>Calm down! Breathe! Many of us have approached the OP. I am not a lawyer, but I don't think your going to jail for approaching him!! <P>I remember seeing the OW in my disaster the first time. UGGHH. There were 4 police cars at my house and friends holding me down and I didn't get in a bit of trouble. Now you can picture them together, and torture yourself some more.<P>DON'T DO IT! Forget him all together and know that , I know this may sound harsh, but that jerk did not make a marriage commitment and if it weren't him, it would have been someone else. <P>Do you really think that he can trust her? I am a firm believer that for the most part, what comes around goes around.<P>Don't you be the one to give it to him. Don't put your freedom in someone else's hands. This all sounds to be very very recent.<P>You mentioned in another post, you are on anti depressants. Try to take all this one day at a time and try to spend time doing things that will help you not think about it all the time.<P>If you really want her back, you belong in Plan A, no lovebusters, have you read that yet? If not check into it. I don't think confronting the OM will give you any positive feelings from her.<P>Be strong. Don't let them see you this way. Take a step back from it and give yourself time to absorb this and determine what you really want. A marriage to her, can you find it in your heart to trust again? Can you commit to her after whats' happened? If so, start Plan A right away. If your so angry you can't think straight, you aren't going to make a rational decision just yet.<P>Prayers to you,Dana<BR>

He might take a restraining order out on you. Then, if he or your wife want, they could make false accusations, and then have you arrested.<P>My ex and the OW did this. It has caused many problems with me and the girls. <P>You did the same thing many of us have done....sometimes just seeing them is not enough.....you just have to say something.<P>Try to stay calm and don't lower yourself to their level. It just hurts you even more.<P>Nancy

If you didn't touch him and didn't threaten him, you're probably ok. But, next time, think about whether or not you are making a good choice. But the last thing you want is to do anythng that will give her more ammunition to use against you, whether it's psychological or legal.<P>

If I had a chance I really wanted to punch OW so baaaaaaaaad! But at the same time it's so stupid to be thrown in a jail because of this b!tch. That's how I stopped myself. The reason might be silly but it worked. Please do things for yourself!!<BR>Meg