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Well, I saw my husband briefly yesterday. Everything was very strained but I kept my cool and tried to be very "giving". I think it helped that I didn't get all hysterical and cry because he called again tonight just to see how I am, or so he said. He says he is going to get an apartment of his own soon. I asked him if I was really that horrible that he couldn't stand to stay in the house with me and he said no, it was him not me. This is a big change because all along he has been blaming this whole thing on me. What do you all think this sudden change means? Anything? I have stopped pushing him to talk about "us" every time I talk to him and this seems to make him much more comfortable in talking to me. In fact, when he called tonight, this was the first conversation that he has initiated since this whole thing started almost 2 weeks ago. It seems that if we can just get comfortable talking to each other again it would be much easier to talk about our situation later. That of course keeps me sitting here in limbo, but I think I would rather do that than push him into making a decision immediately, because if I push him, I don't think I would like the outcome. What do you all think of all this? Any advice would be welcome. Thanks!<br>
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LL,<p>I think I would just keep up with what you are doing. The important thing is not to push him. Be patient with him. It is a big step that he has stopped blaming you completely. Start with a friendship and let it naturally progress. It's hard to be in limbo but as you said it is better than having it all end. My prayers are with you.<p>Steph
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