I came home Sat. nite. Cut my weekend short. I missed Jan and my son was out of sorts. We talked a bit. He has a lot to deal with, poor guy. We both do. This marriage does need major help. But I know with God all things are possible. Baby steps!!! In regards to ALNON, Jade, how would that help? I have been using many of their techniques for yrs, but God showed me that!! I have my friends, church and spiritual life, not to mention books on the subject. Those things are my support group. I mentioned that he should go back to AA and he got very defensive. He has no faith and few friends. Now that's tough! Thanks for the reply and suggestion [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<p>