New problem - My husband and I have now been separated for 2 weeks. He still won't talk about "us" but we have talked about bills and other things. He knows that I am completely committed to this marriage and will do anything to make it work. Now I am wondering if that is causing more problems. I am trying to be as giving and understanding as possible. I am doing everything I can to avoid ugly confrontations. Now I feel like I am making it too easy for him to take advantage of me. The only time he comes to the house is when he needs somthing - to do laundry, get food, if he needs money, etc. Because I am still so in love with him, I don't want to see him go without so I give him anything he needs. He has a good job and actually makes a lot more money than I do, but I think he is going out with his buddiesw and partying every night and blowing every cent he has. What should I do in this situation? I know that there is a good person inside of him somewhere. The person I knew for the first 8 or 9 years we were together. He has changed a lot but I can't give up hope that we can work this out and things can go back to the way they used to be.<br>

LL,<p>I would just say as long as you still love your husband your going to hold onto hope of getting him back. I have never been in that type of situation before, but I can sure imagine what It would be like. If I were in your type of sitution I would at some point stop letting your husband come over to use this or that. If he isnt willing to help bring your marriage back together then its going to feel painful for you everytime he comes over for other reasons then you. If you want to be back together then find out what he wants for the future.Separations can go on forever...just leaving things unresolved. Get to the heart of what is going on between the two of you. If he dosent want you back, then you will feel like you are being taken advantage of. Get to the bottom of this separation issue. So your not handing in limbo forever. There is hope....but you'll need to pray and seek your Heavenly Father to be your best guide in life. Take care..........freesun.....<p>[This message has been edited by freesun (edited 11-19-98).]