Well guys and gals I have not posted for awhile because I have been having computer problems. But I have been trying to at least read your postings while I have been working.<P>My settlement meeting is Aug 15 and I think we will settle without going to trial..BUT my H just let his internet girlfriend move in with him.<P>I told him he could not have overnight guest as long as the kids where there. I would do the same also. We may get into a big fight about this.<P>He finally bought a condo and said he could finally do regular visitation. Then 3 weeks later he lets this person he meet on the internet from another town move in with him. He said she got a job here and is moving in, he told the kids and not me. <P>I totally went off the deep in. Called my lawyer ect.<P>Now what to do? They are suppose to go over there tonight and my daughter ask H not to let her be there when she was there and he did not answer her email back.<P>I never thought he would let a woman move in with him...he was crying a month ago about first OW moving to a different state, and then 3 weeks later lets his good friend as he discribes her move in with him.<P>Do they not get it. My kids are trying to build a relationship back with him and he does this. <P>I could go on and on...I just needed to vent.<BR>I could use any suggestions. I know a lot of you have to deal with the OP but this was a complete surprise to me and the kids.<P>Thanks.

m3k,<BR>I'm sorry you and your kids have to go through this. I don't think there is anything you can do once you are divorced. They are a free person and can do anything they want as long as it doesn't endanger the kids, just like you can.<P>Bringing it to his attention probably won't help, it didn't in my case, as they become even more determined to have the op accepted by everybody. <P>I guess in the end, it will your kids decision if they want to be around the guy. I think my kids are gradually starting to accept the om (yeech) in my case.<P>Hang in and God Bless,<P>Bob

m3k,<P>Long time no see. SOrry to hear the circumstances. I think Bob is right on the legality but its the moral aspects that bother us most.<P>I remember when I had to send my kids off to ex's house to meet OW. Ughh. What a nightmare. I hated her. Wanted to scratch her eyes out!! Within 2 months, I actually let her in my house on Easter for a pick up. Last week we spoke on phone for an hour. Do I like her??? Not really. I am ONLY doing it for the kids. If you told me I'd be here 4 months ago, I'd say no way. Unfortunately my girls love the OW and it breaks my heart yet they are loveable kids.<P>Sending a hug and a prayer,<BR>Dana (lonelymom changed her name)