Help me please!! I need advice. Here is the quick history my husband and I were seperated for two months and since June we have been trying to put things back together. The problem is that he developed an on-line relationship while we were seperated and it is threating our reconcilation. I do not know what to do. Do I confront her? Do I refrain from being intimate with my husband until he decides? <P>I can not give up and leave again because he is just waiting for that to happen. You see in January something happened that threw me into a deep, dark, depression. My husband and I tried counseling for two months but I was not getting better quick enough. Since I felt like dying so badly I pushed him away and was really mean to him. I figued that it would not bother him when I died if his last memories of me were of my being a real "*ithch" fault thinking I know but that was the depression talking. I have been receiving help and medication. But it was either good timing or bad because my husband thinks the only reason I am back is due to jeaoulsy. That is not the case. I am not competitive and would have not come around if I had known the whole truth. Any suggestions??? Sorry if this is too long.

Please read all in the info at this site especially about Plan A. You might want to post your query over at the General Questions in the Infidelity Forum

I will read the plan again. I know I have to fill up his needs but I do not know if I am doing that. <P>Thanks, how do I post it over there? Just write it again?

Mysti,<P>Just copy the link in the browser where it says "Address" and then start a new post in GQ, or can copy and paste there also!<P>I would suggest the EN board (the top one)on the main Forum page!<P>Anyway, Would your H be willing to seek help on here too? This internet business is really hard to take. I haven't dealt with it personally with affairs of the virtual world, BUT, your not the only one on here that has to deal with what your doing!<P>Let me ask this cause I was so like you with the depression bit. I spent about 9 months battling a deep depression, I know about distancing a spouse, MORE to protect them from your pain, instead of letting them help you. First of what is done is done! Keep that in mind!<P>Can't take that back...BUT...what you CAN do is like KalGrl said "READ READ READ" Get Plan A down, understand it and if you have questions about it ask people on here straight out what it means to Plan A. THESE PEOPLE HELP BIG TIME!!!<P>Learn about Love Banks, Love Busters, what to do and NOT to do when trying to peruse your H back to you!<P>Most of all DON'T LOSE FAITH in your ability to "lure" him back to you emotionally, physically and to be the "unit" that you two once were!<P>Get some good info off of here. READ other posts, I myself learn just as much from posts that aren't directed at me as I do those that are directed at me!<P>You've come to the right place to get this back! <P>Hang in there Mysti!<P>Drew