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I'm coming down to the end of the line on my marriage soon. I guess this is a question for ladies - for those who are getting divorced, or already are, do you intend to take back your maiden name or do you think you should keep the married one for the kid's sake.<P>I tend to think I'll keep the married one so I don't upset the boys, but want so much to be rid of it and get back to who I really am!! Some people say you can do both. Some people say that I should go back just for the sake of my credit (my STBX is irresponsible with money).<P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy
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Your credit won't be affected by your name. It is tied to your social security number.<P>I changed mine back on the divorce papers, and happy I did. I don't have children though, so it was not so complicated. Fortunately for me, though, I did change it in time to have my REAL name put on my Master's degree. THANK GOD. <P>You could hyphenate it. You don't need a court order to do that, because your maiden name is always yours.
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Weirded Out, I am going back to my maiden name. My divorce will be final within a few days. I have 3 kids and I asked them how they felt about it. My 9 year old said,"It doesn't matter what your name is, you're still the same person." They were all OK with me changing my name back. I think it's really a personal preference. Since my H will be RUNNING to the altar with the ho, I decided I didn't want to share a name with her. Just my opinion. Do what's right for you.<P>------------------<BR>Blessed be.<BR>****************<BR>Keridwen<P>Keridwen_7@yahoo.com
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Keridwen - seems like I haven't heard from you in weeks. Hope you are and have been well.<P>On the name issue - I have 2 children with x and they, naturally, have his name. In my state you have two choices for your name at the time of your divorce - keep his or go to your maiden name. I really want to do neither. Got the divorce 18+months ago. x is getting married in Oct. Plan on changing last name to a neutral one - my son, dad and grandfather all were given the middle name of Thomas. My children are cool with this. They don't see that my name defines me. <P>What I really want to do is change it so that I can wrap up his (x's) name and mail/give it to him with the explanation that I don't want it anymore & he can give it to new w.
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Cindy - priceless!<P>That's kinda what I was thinking. I can see him taking the plunge again within a month after we're divorced. He is so needy. My boys are little tho and they didn't like the idea of my name being different, but I think if we have another talk about it, other than a brief mention like I did before, I hope they'll be ok because I can't stomach having his name anymore.<BR><P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy
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