exactly one month ago i recd call from W that she didnt love me any more and that she was leaving.The reason was that i would not get any help for an anger problem i have.I have never physically abused her but she says i was mentally abusive.we have one daughter 10.5 and a son due in Nov. when i have actually talked to her about if this is final or not she always says that she is not sure, that was why she moved out;to clarify her feelings. i have since started counseling for anger and a diagnosed depression that docs seem to say i have had for years. i am trying to fix me and now would like to know what i can do to fix us. i have had all sorts of conflicting emotions but i truly love her and want our marriage to work out.......i just get her to open up and tell me anything.....also trying to give her space and dont want to ne talking to her all the time.....i say alot of prayers to God to make me a better man and husband...hope that He will speak to her heart....i am at just a loss as to what to do next. She really seems to enjoy her single life ,by that i mean she sounds happy and such.i have to play a dirty game with daughter by asking her questions about mom and their new life.......can someone please give me a clue as to what to do? thanks and God bless

maxidog99<BR> glad to see you are working on you My H & I had a rocky relationship d/t his anger & past hurts & d/t my feeling not good enough.<BR> Check out this site see if it helps billferguson.com. Let me know it helped me.

Maxidog99, Please for your d sake stop playing that game it may destroy your relation ship with her. What is going on is between you & W & about you 100%. Your wife has her on 100% and she has to find her way with that. Just the space a way from the anger displayed has probally given her some relief don't take it personally. Work on yourself contact billferguson.com & see if you can relate & end the cycle of conflict.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Gypsy

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Gypsy:<BR><B>Maxidog99, Please for your d sake stop playing that game it may destroy your relation ship with her. What is going on is between you & W & about you 100%. Your wife has her on 100% and she has to find her way with that. Just the space a way from the anger displayed has probally given her some relief don't take it personally. Work on yourself contact billferguson.com & see if you can relate & end the cycle of conflict.<P><BR></B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

GYPSY-you are so right about what i am doing to my daughter.was able to talk to her tonite and didnt ask her anything about her mom.....the bill ferguson site does help and will study it more in depth.