first off you can see my story from other post. Got my cell phone bills for the last 2 months and the same number comes up 40 times. everyday at least once. i had a small voice in back of my head say that something not quite right for her to leave the way she did.went to pay phone and called the number(it is a private listing) and answer machine picked up and their is a mail voice on the other end.W had said that there was someone at he work that just "kept bothering her" and she kept telling her she was married.I may have overblown the situation but i think she is having an affair. so my question is this: do i confront her with my suspicions or do i ride it out. she been gone 4 weeks and until today i was willing to take her back no matter what. now i dont know. Also we have one D 10 yrs old and a baby due in nov/dec. so this is a real down time for me. have tried to play it cool but now im really pissed. any help/suggestions?

I would suggest obtaining more information/snooping before you confront. IF it is not a PA, it might be a EA which is just as bad or it might be nothing at all. I haven't followed your story, but if she left, I would think it is some sort of affair.<P>Just make sure, before you do confront. IT will be a huge lovebuster either way. EIther way you will get the lines, "its only a friend,"nothings happened, etc" <P>Sometimes the light of day does disrupt the affair as it is no longer a secret.<P>Hang in there and God Bless,<P>Bob