Wow! It seem like most of these affairs have been going on for quite some time!<P>Rcoaster,<P>My ex has acted like he wanted to try and work things out on about 4 different occasions. However, he was living with or still with bimbo the whole time. Sometimes I wonder why he even talked about it. <P>I filed for divorce a couple of months after he walked out since he offered no help financially or otherwise. As far as I was concerned it was pure abandonment.<P>

sooooooo, if the majority of affairs end.....why does it seem like our WS are still with their OP????<P>D day was Feb 98, he left Feb 99...and still with the OP<P>Rizz

Rizz, I can answer that question easily enough...<P> Almost everyone in the Divorce/ing Forum are /have done just that. <P>~~Mynabird

EA 1 year...PA started Sep. 28 1999

I really should get to sleep - something I haven't been doing lately. I feel like I'm right back at the beginning of all this now because I'm at the 1-year mark where everything starts becoming an "anniversary".<P>My STBX moved to this state in 5/99, I moved here in 8/99. D day 10/99. Believe he was seeing her before I got here but don't really know when it started - and since he is incapable of the truth, I don't believe the date he gave me. So it's a little over a year now. He still lies to everyone about her, tells his mother he's not with anyone now (he just got back from vacation with her!).<P>I see them getting married within weeks of our divorce. Worried about my children being with this wretched excuse of a woman. Off the subject (like I usually am), dad came to give son birthday presents tonight (he's only a week late) and when I came in the house, Ben asked me, "Can Dad sleep over tonight?" My heart broke all over again and I've been crying ever since.<P>Need that sleep now and probably some Tylenol PM's for help.<BR><P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

Kathy:<P>Sorry to hear about how depressed you are regarding your son's comment. My daughter who is 6 also says things like that now and then and it breaks my heart. It is so hard to witness the affect of the divorce on the children. <P>

Read back my own post. Wretched Excuse of a Woman - WEW - I think I'll use that from now on instead of OW.<P>Thank you 711. I'm sinking back down again and fighting to come back up and I seem to be having a little trouble this time. Ben just turned 5 and has never seen a babysitter let alone daycare, so I look into his near future with a broken heart. He always gets to me with his innocence.<P>I tend to agree with Rizz. I don't think these affairs usually end. My mother was a WEW who broke up someone else's marriage, and she's still married to the guy 14 years later. I think my STBX HAS finally found happiness, only he had to stomp on 3 people to get there but what does that matter to a man with no conscious? Will he cheat on her? I don't know, he cheated on me many times for the duration of our marriage. But they are two of a kind, so they might be good for eachother and maybe become swingers or something.<P>I feel really in a sarcastic, cynical mood right now and I don't like it. I'm going to go wrestle with my boys I think (and let them beat me up).<P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy