I have been divorced for one week now. I did not want the divorce but my husband did. He cheated on me twice that I know of and I believe he cheated on me with his current girlfriend. I feel like we had a special deep relationship. He wants to be my friend now. He said that he got tired of feeling one down in the relationship because of the affairs. I tried to forgive him. I really love him. Am I crazy? Everyone tells me he has a problem. I believe them, but I still think if he could face his problem we could work things out. How do you decide when it is too late? I am crazy. Am I co-dependent? Dr. Harley said you could still try to get back with your partner two years after the divorce in YOUR LOVE & MARRIAGE. I believe in unconditional love. Should I love him but realize he isn't good material for a relationship? Any advice? Move on or hold on?

I felt a need to post because I feel the same, in a way, that you do... <P>I don`t know how long you were sep, before the final divorce, but it sounds to me that he has moved on a bit.. <P>I would *act* as though, and want to show him, that I have moved on, in my life, (as I am doing, as well..) and allow him to hear about you and see you have been doing ok, despite what has happened, and if he shows up to say hi for any reason, (I would) resist him, be kind, but back offish, and show him you`ve grown stronger as a person, and won`t take any more of his crap.. men respect a woman that make a stand for her beliefs.. and take initiative to being independent.. and there is the old saying, "you always want what you can`t have.." and it is so true.. <P>some times they need to be shown the lite of day.. the hard way.. too.. but with class!! style and grace... <P>does this make any sence to you????<P>hope I helped..!<P>AV<P>

It's just been one week so I feel it is way too soon to give up. Yes you need to get on in your life but if you still love him, so much can happen. It's been two years for me & I still hope for a turn of events but I have my life to live & I can only depend on myself. I did not learn of OW until after my divorce & he was with her for a year & I now know it was totally a rebound situation. He appeared at my door after I was just healing & accepting me being alone & now I'm back to wondering what it all meant & does he still love me. I think your post made me want to share my situation & again one week is not long enough time to decide what is next for you. I hope I was of some help.