Wife and I spoke about my high need to be touched or to touch ( last night. I asked her if she had the same need and she responded by saying no I have just shut down.<P>This morning (she is always more open in AM)I asked her for a hug and she gave it to me! Then she broke down crying a little later when discussing her father ( alzheimers). She said I just keep thinking I can run to my Dad.<P>She then wanted a hug and I told her again that I was there for her and that I would help any way possible!<P>I don't want to read into this but she also wants to do something this evening (show/dinner. I have no expectations ( yeah right). I am just trying to be there!<P>She also asked me why I was now so open with my emotions when I was closed before. I explained my fear of expressing emotions due to concern that I would be seen as weak!<P>Macho crap! I have always had very deep feeling but have very seldom expressed them.<P>I am trying to go slow and not read into her behavior. What do you guys think?

Hurting In Omaha!!!<P>OMG.........this is great!!! <BR>You go boy! <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Wife and I spoke about my high need to be touched or to touch ( last night. I asked her if she had the same need and she responded by saying no I have just shut down.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>I will tell you this she really does have a need to be touched or for her to touch you.<BR>(geeessshhh,she is a women isn't she?..LOL)<P>Right now tho she can't see that or is able to admit to it bc she is in withdrawl!<BR>(she will not be able to open her self up until she feels secure in the fact that you and your changes are here to stay!)<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>This morning (she is always more open in AM)I asked her for a hug and she gave it to me! Then she broke down crying a little later when discussing her father ( alzheimers). She said I just keep thinking I can run to my Dad.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>You are showing her that you are there for her and that you do care!(no other motives other than helping her out and to feel better.)<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>She then wanted a hug and I told her again that I was there for her and that I would help any way possible!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Great job!!! <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I don't want to read into this but she also wants to do something this evening (show/dinner. I have no expectations ( yeah right). I am just trying to be there!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>It is sooooo hard not to read more into any of it!(man do I know!)<P>Ok.........so your a guy......("no expectations").......the best thing that I can tell you is you need to let her be the one to make the advances....(that is if sex is what you are talking about....now,if you are talking about playing checkers than it doesn't matter who starts it!!)..... <P>Even if it goes as far as she starts things going.......I would even suggest to her that you don't think that it is a good idea.(I know,easier said than done!!!)Let her know that you want to but that you want her to know that she really needs to be ready to do this.(you don't want to push.)<P>You need to get her to trust you.......she needs to know that you love her,and are there for her but not just for the sex.Be nothing but a gentleman......Maybe just laying w/eachother and holding her,maybe just some kissing.<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>She also asked me why I was now so open with my emotions when I was closed before. I explained my fear of expressing emotions due to concern that I would be seen as weak!<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Man this is great that she is talking w/you and sharing w/you her concerns.<BR>Man if only men could understand that it is so much more in there heads about coming across as being weak!.......this is just one womens opinion,but I for one admire and respect and think more of a man that WILL show his more tender side! <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Macho crap! I have always had very deep feeling but have very seldom expressed them.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Forget about the Macho Crap.......throw it out the door!NOW!......it is great if you can express your deep feelings!(I for one think that it will bring a Man and Woman together and make there relationship closer making it more intamite!<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I am trying to go slow and not read into her behavior.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE> <P>That is very good that you see this!<BR>It is the hardest part of all of this!<P>Just be your self........show her that you<BR>do care,that you are there for her for support.<P>It sounds as tho you are doing a great job!!<BR>Keep it up!!<P>Hang in there!<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

Hurting In Omaha,<P>Just wanted to know how you were doing and how your weekend went?<P>I hope all is well!<P>Man,I can leave a short response........LOL<BR>Well,this makes up for the other one!..<P>Take is easy and hang in there!<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----

It was kind of a tough weekend. I just can't let go and to top it all off my last child started Kindergarten today.<P>It is just to emotional!<P>Thanks for asking!