My wife had an affair about 13 months ago. we have been seperated for the last year. We tried counseling and even got back together only lasted 3 days. (this happened twice)<BR>I tried to show her that I forgave her and knew that I was part of the problem. After about 5 months of her saying she not ready. I decided to move on. I met someone and as and wife found out about it 3 months ago. Now she is begging me to save our marriage.<BR>I told her that we are not right for eachother, and she said that to me six months ago. I told her there was no chance. I since ended the relationship with girl I met. (moving to fast)I cannot seem to finish the Divorce<BR>Wife has called and has said if this is over then I want the papers signed. I seem unable to do it. We were married 2 years seperated 1 no kids

Josephinma,<P>If you were married just 2 years...<BR>and all of this happened in that 2 year time span...<P>...I would question the maturity of your ability to make the marriage commitment.<BR>(I don't mean to be mean or judgmental...<BR>...your judgment must be what really counts)<P>To really know...<BR>...I would recommend some marriage counseling.<BR>...for both of you<BR>...to determine whether you're both ready to commit.<P>I suggest you look at <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3000_intro.html" TARGET=_blank>Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts</A>...<P>If you <B>both</B> feel that you are able to truly give <B>in "self-donation"</B> to each other by living <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3900_rules.html" TARGET=_blank>The Four Rules for a Successful Marriage</A>...<P>If you are nearing the maturity of living a <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>Policy of Joint Agreement(POJA)</A>...<P>...you can and should make it!!! <P>It can be done! <BR>...but it takes work!!!<P>Love <B>is NOT</B> a state of being...<BR>...it is a journey with one commited for life...<BR>...beyond the most basic idea of "maturity"<BR>...and into the realm of complete and balanced giving...<BR>...to let your <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3550_give.html" TARGET=_blank>Giver</A> flourish!<BR>...an to let your <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3550_give.html" TARGET=_blank>Taker</A> know satisfaction.<P>My prayers for you...<P>You might consider doing a personal inventory first...<BR>...and if your heart leads you to believe in the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3000_intro.html" TARGET=_blank>MB Concepts</A>...<BR>...I would recommend that you have a couple of <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7200_phone.html" TARGET=_blank>telephone counseling sessions</A> (~$95US a pop... but well worth it) with <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7010_about.html" TARGET=_blank>Steven W. Harley</A> or Jennifer Harley. Check out the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7000_counsel.html" TARGET=_blank>Counseling Center</A>... and for some specifics... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7015_fee.html" TARGET=_blank>Fees for Counseling Services</A> and <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi7020_sched.html" TARGET=_blank>Scheduling an Appointment</A> (888-639-1639)!<P> <P>Jim