This is not a TDY (Temporary Duty) assignment, It is a PCS (permanent change of station) assignment, but since I am in a volitile part of the world and the area is so small, it is not cost effective for the government for me to have my family here. We are still technically at war with north Korea (Armistace) and at any time we could start fighing again (we got REAL close this last weekend). If this happens then all civilians will have to be evacuated to safety. The government doesnt want to spend the money to evacuate our families so they just say we can't bring them here.<p>There is an almost constant stream of insurgents from the north trying to infiltrate the south and set up for an invasion. You really don't get the whole picture of what is going on back in the States, but believe me, the situation is a lot worse here than it seems <br>I guess that puts an extra strain on someone's marriage, That I may not be here tomorrow for whatever reason's. The long separations are one thing, but the thought that one day, I will go to war and not come home is very sobering. Even today as I write this, there has been some recent events that may spark something bad in the VERY near future. I sit here wondering if I will ever see my wife and children again, I have hope, and I am ready for whatever happens, but you never know what tomorrow will bring.<br>OK, I am depressing myself so I gotta quit. I have had a really bad day today (don't ask )<p>Thankyou for all your ideas and advice. I would still like to hear any more that anyone has to offer. I have already tried the ones that "X" Listed (My wife got annoyed when I called her early in the morning to say good morning )<br>I am very interested in hearing more suggestions.<p>Hope everyone has a good Christmas, Take this time to be close to your families and go that extra mile to do all those things for your spouses that you don't normally do (you know, the thing's your spouses are always nagging about).<p>Mark<p>Oh yeah, Someone gave me some advice that is sure to help everyone here. You all know that your spouses are always "nagging" you to do things, and saying things like "Well if you were to do...., then I would do....." <br>I know that is familiar to everyone. <br>Well, the advice I got was: <br>Why wait for your spouse, JUST DO IT!<br>Make a poster and put it somewhere where you can see it, write in big bold letters on this poster "JUST DO IT" then follow the instructions.<br>Try it and see what happens.<br>