Hello,<BR>Does anyone know what the answer to this question? If you're married for 14 years for the second time do you have any rights to your h stock. My mother's h is seeking a divorce but has put everything on hold but is still insisting they will divorce. I don't trust him. <P>We need to know if there is a way she can freeze the assets they have acquired during their marriage. TIA tess

Something else...he is leaving her for the pursuit of other women and wanting to leave her with a huge amount of debt....

You might want to go over to divorcenet.com and ask this question. They have state specific boards over there and someone from Ohio will probably have an answer.

grandpabri,<BR>Thank you. Thank you!

tessa,<P> As far as I know. yes anthing over 10 yrs entitles your mom to half of everything.. AND! they go back up to three yes to see what was accumulated.. she will have to have copies of every account.. up to date.. and she can also go ot internal revenue, to get his tax returns, (up to three yrs also) to know what he is making (on the books) and has had to claim in the recent past.. <P>and!! yes she sould put a top on things if she even thinks he`ll be that vicious.. but it will make her life a bit tougher while things are frozen too.. so it is something she must think about or look into.. <P>if she has the money, higher a lawyer right away, and make him check on things for her if she is not stroing enough right now to do it her self...<P>I hope I helped.. but every state is different,, check with a local lawyer.. they will give you a free consultation, and you can get a bundle of info just from that.. <P>take advantage now.. before it is too late.. <P>good luck..<BR>AV

AV,<BR>Gosh, thank you so much! I've been over to divorcenet.com and posted. Haven't received a reply yet. They answer the questions based on the way the state is that your are living in. <P>Hopefully, she will not get taken for another ride. <P>I have another question. Her state of mind is low. She started anti-depressants today. He is not being upfront with her at least based on what he is telling me. He is hope building in her and I'm afraid it will crush her if he leaves. How do you handle situations like these. She is down and just sounds hopeless. I am fearful of telling her about some incidents I know about (other women) and some things he has said to me about how much he is wanting out of the divorce. I am also fearful of keeping anything from her. Any suggestions?<P>Thank you.

She should consult her attorney and have him served with a restraining order forbidding him to do anything with any assets that were acquired during the marriage. She may be entitled to more than half of the assets, depending on a number of things. But of course, everything is negotiable.<P>------------------<BR>Bobbie

tessa,<P>I wish I had some answers for you.. I went with my heart back when my dad cheated on my mom, and now I am going through this my self.. so I take it day by day right now..<P>I never went on meds.. and made it this far.. (almost 2 yrs H, left) but it is not easy.. I still have some really bad days.. it seems it never ends.. but I know in time it will.. (at least thats what they tell me.. I don`t see it yet..)<P>I had found out back when dad cheated, and was the only one out of six siblings to tell my mom, and only because, nothing was going to change for her staying with him.. she was miserable and it was so heart breaking and pathetic, I couldn`t stand watching her suffer any more.. <P>I told her she was a fool if she thought he would love her again.. (it was yrs he was fooling around on her and she stayed and waited and took it) <P>I was 25 when I found out the truth.. I wanted to beleive my dad was my knight in shining armour, and could do no wrong... <BR>BOY WAS I WRONG...<P>But.. this was my real dad.. your situation is a bit different, in that case she may think you never liked him and this may be an excuse or some sort.. and not beleive you.. <P>It is like walking on egg shells.. and he also may just say, ANYTHING to make you look like the bad guy.. <P>just know, this may effect your realtionship for a while with your mom, and that it is a chance you have to take, if this is what you want.. think of what is more important, for both of you... <P>I told my mom, and didn`t speak to dad for three yrs... right now, my wonderful dad is helping me with the divorce, financially, but he is NOT THERE FOR ME EMOTIONLALLY.. and that is a real probelm I have with the whole thing.. my ex is just like that as well.. money cures all.. well... NOT IN MY BOOK!!!!!<P>not with me it doesn`t.. so I am again having a hard time with dear old dad.. it is all coming back to haunt me, and I`m going through some more hard times, because of this..<P>I know this is a hard choice.. but in the end she will come to grips with this and know you were just concerned and cared.. and love her.. and thats what counts.. <P>she already knows you love her..!! BUT I would also have the proof with whom ever else he approached, as back up.. if they would. so your statments can be confirmed.. but!! again... it may get back to the H, and then things can back fire. so do it fast, after approaching the others, so this does not get out of hand.. people talk and things have a tendency to get a bit warped, (like the game telephone!!!) so be careful what you say, and how you say it...<P>I wish you well tessa.. I know how you are feeling right now.. I remember those days like yesterday.. as much as I now remember the day my ex left vivdly.. as well.. <P>it is a heart wrenching gut feelings that just never goes away.. (when the memory comes back) to this day.. I wish I could forgive.. but it seems I can`t.. I love my dad, very much.. but this runied our relationship.. <P>I wish you lots of luck tessa.. I hope everything works out...<P>AV

Thank you Bobbie and AV,<BR>I appreciate your advice nad taking the time to reply. AV, I think you and I have had several same experiences. I want to encourage you as well.<P>I hope things are looking up for you. Have you read much material here? I have been reading about relationships and human behavior for many years in hopes of understanding my past and the effects. It's the best thing I could have ever done for myself. Keep reading and growing. Thanks tess

tessa,<P> thank you for your kind words... Yes I have read alot, over the past 15 yrs..!! all through my marriage.. I had bought all the tapes, and books I thought would help. my ex, had an ex before me, and his attitude has never changed.. he said he did what ever he felt I felt we had to do, FOR ME.. not for him self.. he is still so blind to the FACT!! that he needs big time help.. he has no clue to what he is incapable of.. and that is communicating.. <P>the word I am always looking for is that he is incomprehencable.. he hasn`t got what it takes to be a communicater.. and never will..<P>as far as how I am doing.. not great.. this has set me back so much and is so discouraging, to think any future men, that may come into my life, will be some what the same.. of course in all new beginnings, no one ever shows their true colors, so who is to know, until time passes and things build up and it is too late.. <P>thats the chance we all have to take though, right?? <P>I wish you and your mom well.. I hope for her sake, she will see the lite, and come to her sences.. it is going to be a long and winding road.. but they say there is a lite at the end of the tunel. I for one am still looking for that lite.. <P>you take care.. AV

AV,<BR>Hey, that light your were talking about, well he turned it on for her. She asked him so straight forward questions and he answered them truthfully. It freaked her a bit but she called this morning and is setting a meeting up in the morning.<P>She's scared but mainly I think of being alone. I pray she'll stay focused on maintaining her well being. I hope she'll use this time to relax and grow.

tessa<P> good for her!! thats great... I`m glad.. she`ll get the picture sooner or later... and she`ll be fine.. it is such a drain to our systems.. but some how we all pull through.. <P>I`m happy for you.. I`ll keep a look out for any future up dates.. <P>again..take care....AV