I just received the cell phone bill, and guess what, there are calls to michigan, which is were H's internet slut lives!!!!! I just want to pack my stuf and go, but i have no place to go, I followed his military career for 5 yrs, we live in New York now, I'm from Ca. for pete sake!!!<BR>I get hope, then it gets ripped away, and i don't know what to do or think. My mother says I have an advantage over her, because I'm still living with him, and that I'm here, but she has the advantage because he'll talk to her. He tells me about his day and stuff, but what is the difference between her and I? And how do I go on with plan A and not using love busters, when I know what I know? I want to work it out, but my question is now, is it worth it?<BR>Thanks.

Garfield,<P>((((((((((( HUG ))))))))))))<P>I am sorry!........I know how frustrating that it can be.<P>The only real thing that I can say is if you want your H and your marriage.........then do what ever you have to do to keep him living there.<P>I know for me if was the end when my stbx left.(he had finally made some kind of decision......was it the decision that I wante heck no)<P>I do know that it did help us in one respect bc we started treating eachother like friends again.Be there for him.<P>I would bet that he is venting to her.You need to be the one that he feels safe and secure to talk w/!!!<P>I do believe that if I would have kept my big mouth shut........he might still be here.<P>I had to keep asking about his feelings and thoughts,(that is one of my #1 needs,Openess and Honesty.)It drove him crazy!<P>If your H is some what like that........then don't talk about the relationship things.Be there for him...........if you have kids,than take the kids out and go have some fun.<P>I just had my anger and sad moment last night.Thanks to everyone here.......I do feel better!<P>Hang in there!<P>Gina <P><P>------------------<BR>"If we deny love that is given to us,if we refuse to give love because we fear pain or loss,then our lives will be empty,our loss greater!"-----Anonymous----