Wife sent me the list today so I could approve before it went to the attorney. What a kick in the gut!!!!!!<P>Had hot flashes! Just felt sick! She is so business like it blows me away!<P>How does the court assure that the division takes place the way it was arranged?

The court has no way of knowing unless the parties contest it. If it doesn't sort out the way it's presented in court documents, you have to bring it to their attention and they will usually have a hearing to clear up the matter and issue orders to enforce it. <P>I used to work for a divorce attorney and I've seen this kind of thing happen all the time. Choose your battles carefully. Don't fight over something as a "matter of principal" if it's something that honestly is not that important to you. It can get ugly and cause a lot of bitterness. If you are going to Plan A right through the divorce you will probably want it to go as smoothly as possible while *not* being a total doormat. *Do* stand up for what *is* important to you -- just do so calmly, rationally and with all the compassion you can muster.<P>I'm sorry you're going through this. It's just a matter of time before I will be facing the same thing -- I expect to be served with papers from my H any day. I dread it.<P>Love and prayers,<BR>KristyAnn<p>[This message has been edited by KristyAnn (edited August 31, 2000).]

Thanks, for the good thoughts and prayers. I hope it goes smooth for you also. I am being reasonable and rational.<P>I just want what is best for the kids and I won't be a doormat.<P>Thanks again KristieAnn