Well, Yesterday, was rough, I couldn't help but cry, H notice and wanted to know why I was crying, Gee, let's see, cause you want a divorce! This wasn't my response, but I wanted to say it, so he just told me again, that he wants to be single, he wants to be selfish, he's not happy, he feels like a caged bird, he wants to get it over with as quickly as possible, but... he hasn't done anything yet, not that I want him to. I keep hoping he'll fall and hit his head, maybe he'll forget. He also said there is nothing I can do to change his mind, If this is how he feels, how am I suppose to change his mind? And my other dilema is, I'm going to have to leave eventually, where do I go , do I stay close by so that I can try to save it, or do I move to were my friends and family are which is on the other side of the country? I just feel like ther is no hope, all I want is for my H to love me again, and for him to want to be with me.<BR>Someone please give me advice.

garfield - <P>How long since separation? Or are you separated? Trying Plan A? It sometimes works wonders, although I found it very hard to stick to. Is your H involved in a 'new' relationsihp?<P>If this situation is brand new, give it some time. Read everything you can here at MB, perhaps some of it can be applied in your situation.<P>Oh, and {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}<BR>(We all need those, even if they're cyberHugs)

Hi garfield,<P>I don't understand. Why do YOU have to leave? If he wants out, why can't you stay put, he moves out?<P>[

Did you read the article posted here awhile back about letting go? I hope someone will repost it, I beleive it was by Gary Dodson. Anyway it says when they are feeling trapped and cornered to let them go, and they realize that maybe it isn't so attractive out there after all. I agree, if he wants out, he should be the one to move not you.<P>You can't make him love you, you can only go back to being the strong caring woman he fell in love with, and hope that he comes to his senses at some point.<P>Are you getting out of the house and doing some things for you? <BR>Lora