Hi everyone. I haven't been on the internet lately because I have been having problems with my computer. I got it fixed so I can chat with you all again. I hope things are getting better for you all.<BR>To keep you all posted. I found a new job that I am happy with. I was looking for a job for a while. I have some of Steve's books that I am reading. He tells me to stick to plan A. I write to my husband and call him up like Steve recommends. My husband is going to quite his job. I hope he does because I don't like some of the people he hangs around with. They are bad influences on him. I can use all your prayers to. I will keep you all in my prayers. <BR>I find that with time passing by I am losing some feelings towards him. It is hard to love someone that hurt you. I pray that I will love him the way I used to.<BR>As well, I am getting more stronger and confident with myself. I know that I am a good person and whatever happens I think I will be ok.<BR>Be the way my real name is Katerina

Hi Katerina -<P>What a pretty name. I wanted to post to you so you wouldn't feel as tho no-one is out here. Sometimes it happens that way, but the more you post the more familiar everyone will be with you.<P>I think all of us have felt as you are now. I know I have. Keep up on the PlanA for as long as you feel you can. If you feel that you can no longer sustain it, switch to PlanB because the object of PlanB is to retain at least some of the loving feelings you have towards your spouse. <P>That's the hardest part for me right now. I am now divorced (as of this past Thursday) and my anger hasn't subsided yet. The feelings of love and longing for what was is still so fresh, but the pain went on for a long time too. It isn't going to be gone overnight. <P>Good for you that you have found a job, or career! First step....I hope it gives you the confidence you need. It did wonders for my self-esteem to know that I was valued for something other than being a wife/mother (although I certainly enjoyed being able to do that, too!). <P>{{{{{HUGS}}}}} to you!!<P>Claire<P>Hang in there (because sometimes that's what it feels like you're doing).....to use a cliche - it does get better over time.

Hey Kat,<BR>i can see that your feeling a little stronger when you write and talk. THAT'S GREAT! Inner peace is a hard thing to find sometimes. Feeling left out or all alone......even abondon is frustrating because you never know what you did. In the end it might not of been or had anything to do with you. In your case as much as you have allowed me to know, i don't believe that it was or had anything to do with you.<BR>Your a great person and very strong! So please don't ever sell yourself short or think you can not achieve, after all in the couple months i have known you, you have undergone some major changes in your life. <P>Divorce diffently makes some serious wounds and sometimes you wonder where it all went wrong. It so easy to place blame, but i wonder sometime whether blame or fault or explanation is even necessary at these times in our lives. The answers you get are they really honest? Either way you are doing great.<P>rtn

I appreciate both of you writing back to me. The job I have sometimes calls for late nights. I have been rather busy this week. I have some time today to write you both back. For Claire I really feel for you. Just because you got a divorced does not mean you might not get back with your husband. In God's eyes that is only paper work. He believes in marriages. I am sure he can help restore it. I don't know if you believe in prayer. I can tell you they work. If you don't mind what has happened in your marriage. Maybe I can be a good listener and provide you some advice. Just remember everyone has a free will. God will do his best to help out. He doesn't go against that people's will however. He will help you through it though and things will work out for you.<BR>As for RTN How are you doing. How is your relationship going. I appreciate all the kind words you had to say.<BR>Katerina