Hey all,<P>I am not around that much anymore because I just don't feel the need. I am doing well, have adjusted pretty good to being an almost single woman again, and I really don't care too much about OPs, OCs, and betrayers anymore. <P>The strange thing is, I am not sure where to go from here. I don't feel like I belong here anymore because I am no longer working on my marriage or struggling with divorce. Yet, I don't feel like I am completely ready to cut the cords yet either. <P>What do people like me do? Is there some transition out of here? (Sound like jail! -lol)

Popeye,<P>there are alot of other web sites for divorced parents, and single moms, and if you don`t have kids, just the single life.. It is all under a web page called "iVillage.com the womans network message boards.." it has a whole list of all different kinds of situations to turn to.. <P>I hope this helps you.. I go to many different sites, being in your situation, as well.. <P>well take care, and lots of luck..<P>AV

Popeye - I came to this site 1 1/2 years after my divorce. Sometimes I feel very distressed by the agony on the boards. And sometimes, I really feel I have something to share. And, occaisionally, I still have something come up that I need help with. It's not a perfect fit but I'm too lazy right now to hunt for another. Besides, January is coming!!

Great suggestion! <P>Thank-you everyone, Everyone, EVERYONE who has ever posted and particularly anyone who has responded to me. A special thanks also to Dr. Harley who made all this possible. This board has made me feel like I am not alone, this is conquerable, and has given me the hope and strength to come through it intact. <P>I was not crazy, I was lied to and confused. My life was not ending. I was at a crossroads. Infidelity and divorce didn't mean that I would never be happy again. It meant that the happiness I found would not be based on deceit.<P>I am NOT a victim of infidelity, but a SURVIVOR of infidelity. I am not a door mat, but someone with choices who can create her own destiny. I am not a soon to be divorcee, but a soon to be free and single person! (Divorcee makes it sound like my identity is tied to whether or not I am married). I am happy and I am liberated! <P>Thanks to all of you. Your strong shoulders were so needed and supported me through one of the darkest periods in my life. Without you, I don't know what I would have done.

popeye ~<P>Maybe you'll still hang out and lurk around? My divorce was just finalized last Thursday - so I've been divorced a full week now. It seems soooo strange. I'm sure I'll be experiencing (already have been) the emotions and other flotsam associated with this 'bend in the road.' I'm sure there will be times that you would be able to shed some light on some issues for me.<P>There's too many great people here for me to leave this board. It helps just to read the banter going on, and join in if I feel witty enough <P>Claire

Heck, Popeye,<P>Hang around her and become a resident guru. This board is greatly helped by people who have been there but are not there now. You can empathize with people but you can from the perspective of time and distance give them advice that will really help them.<P>So hang around and help. That would be my suggestion.<P>God Bless,<P>JL