My husband and I have been talking divorce after 22 years of marriage. He says he just doesn't love me and hasn't for a long time now. I feel he shut me out a long time ago without trying to work on it. Finally got him to agree to couselling but he is very reluctant and doesn't see how it would or could help.He feels that once love is lost it's lost forever. would like to know if anyone was in this situation and were they able to turn things around or am I just grasping at straws. He says there is no one else but would like to find someone that he can love and be happy again.<P>Give me some kind of hope<BR>

Teddy, After 22 years of marriage, my husband also told me he was no longer in love with me. There was another woman in his case. He did have mixed emotions about ending our marriage and we did try to improve the relationship for about six months. As with most marriages niether of us really put enough effort into fufilling each other needs and it was too little too late for us. I have to admit my feelings of love for him were weak also, no OP but we were just coasting along neither of us really happy. We did try to save things but he could never overcome his addiction to the OW. My love for him did grow temporalily and I feel his for me did also because he seemed to have very mixed emotions for the six months we (I) tried to save our marriage. I truely feel that if the OW had been out of the picture and we followed the MB principals we could have saved and IMPROVED our marriage. I think there is hope for you and your husband but it will take effort and time. Don't be discouraged, keep trying to fulfill his needs. Make those deposits into his love bank and chances are he will feel the difference and respond accordingly. My prayers and hopes are with you.

Jame: Thanks for your words of encourament.<BR>I hope we can overcome all the bad we have put into this marriage and work things out.<BR>Keep telling him it will take time and patience just hope he has enough patience to wait it out. Will start looking for counsellors.