Well, I have to drive up to Los Angeles tomorrow night to be at the latest court appearance Tuesday morning.<P>My son's 7th birthday. He will probably remember for a long time that on his birthday, mom and dad were in court fighting over him. This sucks.<P>So, if you have a moment, pray for us. Larri and Brian. And Tiana. And our children, Steven and Samantha. And the rest of our family.<P>Pray that Larri sees through the fog and wants to try to rebuild what we have all torn asunder.<P>Pray that I have the strength to forgive.<P>Pray that the kids are not too damaged and can get back to a semi-normal life.<P>Pray that the judge has the wisdom to decide in the best interests of Steven and Samantha.<P>Thanks

You have my prayers for you all... <P>Jim

Grandpabri,<P>Prayers can be a powerful thing around here. When my youngest daughter was sick, I was so sad and down. All of my friends and family were here for me, but it was nice to know that I received so much encouragement here from those who I had come to connect with at the worst time in my life. Its a place I will never forget.<P>I remember the day I had court and was wishing for those same things. I truly believe that the children are the most important thing here. As adults, we have the ability to get past this and understand (well we try) in a different way than the kids. However, the kids, usually tend to amaze us with their ability to adapt.<P>I do believe that all kids are best off with both parents, but most of us here don't have that luxury. So in the meantime, try to believe that, in the end, your prayers will be answered in some way.<P>Maybe even a way you haven't yet thought of. I have forgiven my ex for me, not for any other reason, so that I could go on and have a decent "friendly" relationship for the children. If you told me what I am going to tell you nine months ago, I'd have told you, YOUR CRAZY!!!<P>But I do believe all things happen for a reason, and although we didn't want this to happen to us, it did, and its going to turn out ok, SOMEDAY. Hopefully sooner rather than later. I never realized completely how empty my life was until after I lost the one thing, I THOUGHT I was put here on earth for, my husband. Ya we had a rough marriage, but don't we all?? I am at a point where I am struggling financially, emotionally and physically . But deep down, I am becoming happier in a way I never imagined.<P>I know you don't post an awful lot, but have replied to many of my posts. Are your children in counseling, and if not, have you thought about it? Mine began intensive counseling (and me) right the same week this happened. We are all now doing great in that area and I believe it helped tremendously.<P>You are in my thoughts and prayers, and I hope that in the end, you also will find at least some peace and comfort. Its a lot to ask for isn't it?? <P>Good luck, and keep us posted. <BR>Dana<P><BR>