Jim,<BR>I have not heard from you in awhile,hope I have not offended you in any way.bethn

Heavens... NO!!!<P>I'm sorry if I haven't been responding to you... (your posts)<P>...things are a little rough around my household.<P>I hope things are going well with you. <P> <P>Jim

Jim <BR>I am sorry things are rough,update when you have time.Still praying for MB family.bethn

OK... samll update on me...<P>Right now...<P>Besides getting more paperwork for the divorce trial...<BR>...and I really hate doing it...<BR>...and hope the trial can be postponed...<BR>...say... about... 20 years... <P>I have a new major problem.<P>My stepson's biological father is trying to see his son. They haven't had <B>any</B> contact for 13+ years.<P>The problem is that my stepson is being brainwashed by his mom(my W) that his bio-father is a <I>stalker</I>, and a very dangerous threat to him, me and the rest of the family. To the point of protraying him as a serial killer!!! (no joke... )<P>She had a full week with him (3 weeks ago) to brainwash... and do it vigarously.<P>His bio-father is a very dedicated minister...<BR>...in the Jehovah's Witnesses...<BR>...(not a problem for me)...<BR>...and is disabled... auto accident 8 years ago!<BR>...he has MS and other spinal column ailments where the bone is starting to fuse causing pain... and had 6 operations in the last 5 years.<BR><B>This man is no threat</B>...<BR>...but because of the influence from his mom...<BR>...my stepson is fighting seeing his bio-father... ever! <P><B>On top of that</B>...<BR>My stepson who has ADHD...<BR>...had always (for 8+ years) wanted to had some medication for his ADHD...<P>We went to a psychiarist...<BR>...got the medication (adderall and prozac <1/4 dose> )<BR>...and in 3 days with his mom... he takes himself off the medication...<BR>(His mom was <B>always</B> dead set against <B>any</B> medication...<BR>...is is very paraniod about all prescription medication...<BR>...never took any herself...<BR>...here's a kicker... one of reasons she put for her divorce grounds was my "extreme cruelty"... that I wouldn't get medication for <B>my</B> type II diabetes! WOW!<P>She found all the side-effects about all the medication... and now he thinks he has everyone of them!!!<P>He therefore is refusing all medication...<BR>...and has gotten twice as worse with his obsessive-compulsive beahavior... domineering behavior with siblings... nail biting(to the point of bleeding)... and almost <B>no</B> attention span.<P>Now with the trial upcomming (Oct. 10th)...<BR>...things in the house are just a little more confused!<P>We'll all get through it!<P> <P>Jim

Jim - Yikes! No wonder we haven't heard much from you in a while. <P>As an ADD adult raising two very bright children - one of whom has ADHD - I have some idea what you're up against. Only my x hasn't been as problematic as it sounds like yours is.<P>I am fortunate that my son is in a private school of nothing but children with learning differences. This past year they had their first graduate accepted in the early admissions program for Harvard so they must be doing something right to equip these children. The school now has an R.N. on staff to handle the meds. since so many students are on them. Fortunately, I have yet to have to fight s over his adderall. <P>I did read something interesting about ADD/ADHD children and drug use. Those in the 15-25 year old range who were on meds for their neurological condition were less likely to use illegal drugs than those who weren't on meds. I thought that was interesting. I guess it's because they have a better feel for what it is like to be under better control and they may have more respect for what chemicals can do to your body.<P>

Jim,<BR>So glad you gave us an update.Wish it was posted on its own so you could get support from others.<BR>Know what you mean about the paper work,it seems like having it completed brings me closer to something i dont want.<BR>Had to laugh to myself about biological father being a stalker and serial killer.Perhaps in the past he did stalk W.<BR>But it seems clear that he has made some changes in his life now,and his physical condition would make it hard to do either.<P>ADHD is ? attention deficit? Not fair for wife to tell son of side effects to manipulate him against taking medication.Up to Psychiatrist to discontinue meds because of side effects,not mom.Sorry, makes me mad that she did that.<BR>I know trial date is approaching,will pray for you and family. beth