When I logged on this afternoon, I was needless to say in a bit of a bad mood. I spent the most of last night awake. Thinking of all the what if's, what was, and what could have been. I neglected to think of the what could still come to be, and the good things that out weigh the bad in my day. Once I logged on, I came here first. I do that alot, although I am just starting to post things. I read some peoples posts and replied to a couple. I litterally sat here for about 1/2 an hour thinking and staring at the computer screen.... Like so many times lately, I felt alone. I felt sad. And a bit afraid. But then I started reading posts again. I realized that I am not alone feeling the way that I do. I realized that what I feel is okay... despite if I like it or not. And although I still have to deal with the things that have hit me over the past few days in my own life, I feel a bit better. Not so alone, not so sad, and not so afraid. And all I can say to who ever reads this, is that you are not alone either. It is okay to be sad at times. Pull on the strength of those around you so that you are not afraid. And thank you, to all of you. First for letting me post here. Second for letting me read all of your posts and the kind words of those who reply. And lastly, for letting me know that I am not alone.<P>-Java

Java,<P>This is a place where many of us are going thru the exact same thing. Unfortunately, the world of affairs and divorce is growing at a terrible rate. All our circumstances are slightly different, yet, we all have one thing in common. We all , are good people who have had something bad happen to them. Its not fair and it hurts, but if we can grow, and learn and help each other, and the extra bonus of making a few friends along the way, thats the best part of all.<P>Be strong,Dana<BR>