Last night was just awful! When Rick came home after working 12 hours i was on this site replying to a posting. Rick came in dropped his suitcase and said maybe you'd like to pay this....(it was a fine for 325 dollars no license)<BR>Then he went up stairs and crashed for a little bit until our daughter got out of bed and talked to him about her homework.<BR>Then he came downstairs ate the dinner i prepared insulted my job during our meal, i cried, he said he didn't mean for the comment to be directed at me but it's my job he was talking about!!!!!<BR>Then he gets on the computer fools around, i'm feeling a little left out so i take his hand and show him all the stuff i did for him that day, I CLEANED his whole house and did at least 9 loads of laundry!!! YA i noticed it looks nice.....THAT'S IT FOR BUSTING MY [censored] ALL DAY AT HIS HOUSE AND MAKING HIM DINNER!!!!! When he stays at my house he never cleans it or helps me with jack ****!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR>Then he goes back to the computer asks me for my pass word to my mail i give it to him, without hestitation...he tells me that this guys email address i use to write to after i moved into my place tells me i still write him, which i don't it was just one of those short email how you doing occupational things!<BR>Then he asks me for my password to my phone messages and why i say? I don't have yours. I'll give it to you...then he dials my number and says enter your password i told him why should i? I'll do it when i feel comfortable because i already feel invaded by his previous action. So then he goes on to tell me that this web site advises giving out your passwords to show honesty and that your not hiding anything.<BR>When i reminded him that he already has listened to my messages on occasion but never lets me listen to his he stormed off. Hasn't talked to me since.<BR>I was irrating him last night though after i waited half an hour for him to cool off i then went upstairs to rub his back like i promised earlier. He was on the phone but never hung it up....he was pretending to sleep so i took the phone hung it up and hit redial. A woman answered the phone. That was enough for me. See the important thing here is that i dialed on that phone his cell number so IF like he said he never called anyone.....WELL wouldn't i of gotten his cell number instead of the other woman??<BR>I irratated him with turning on the tv and reading in bed then i just figured if he continues to lie why bother?<BR>I'm suppose to do all this bending and giving and apoligizing while he does none????!!!<P>He even reads these messages and posts under rtn2 because i saved the password and id at his house. He writes people back in sometimes what i feel to be very rude ways. It's not like he practises what he preaches!<P>We've been doing this for 3 weeks now and i don't know if it was an incredibly bad week for him or he is tired of me but my feelings i think keep getting over looked. I am having an incredibly hard day. <P>Do you think he would acknowledge anything for me? I'm so hurt by his actions. I mean i even ran him a bath last night because the previous day he was just exhausted mentally and came unglued with our daughter.<BR>So i wanted to show him a really nice quite evening last night.<P>Sometimes i feel hopeless that he is even trying. Other times i feel like i am ontop the world. <BR>

rtn2<P>Could this have been one of his posts using your password on the thread "Things I Am Angry About and Things I Regret"?<P>"posted September 16, 2000 08:38 PM <P> get over it ! lady<P>anger leads to unhappiness....<P>dont go there ....."<P>Just wondering, thought that the response was a cold, hurtful reply to "discarded". You may want to set up a new user name and password so his responses aren't considered yours.<P>I'm very sorry to read about your troubled times.<P>Peace,<BR>Ragamuffin<BR>

So who is rtn2? I don't think it is nice to play games here.

WHERE ARE YOU - rtn2???? <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by rtn2:<BR><B>Last night was just awful! When Rick came home after working 12 hours i was on this site replying to a posting. Rick came in dropped his suitcase and said maybe you'd like to pay this....(it was a fine for 325 dollars no license)<BR>Then he went up stairs and crashed for a little bit until our daughter got out of bed and talked to him about her homework.<BR>Then he came downstairs ate the dinner i prepared insulted my job during our meal, i cried, he said he didn't mean for the comment to be directed at me but it's my job he was talking about!!!!!<BR>Then he gets on the computer fools around, i'm feeling a little left out so i take his hand and show him all the stuff i did for him that day, I CLEANED his whole house and did at least 9 loads of laundry!!! YA i noticed it looks nice.....THAT'S IT FOR BUSTING MY [censored] ALL DAY AT HIS HOUSE AND MAKING HIM DINNER!!!!! When he stays at my house he never cleans it or helps me with jack ****!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR>Then he goes back to the computer asks me for my pass word to my mail i give it to him, without hestitation...he tells me that this guys email address i use to write to after i moved into my place tells me i still write him, which i don't it was just one of those short email how you doing occupational things!<BR>Then he asks me for my password to my phone messages and why i say? I don't have yours. I'll give it to you...then he dials my number and says enter your password i told him why should i? I'll do it when i feel comfortable because i already feel invaded by his previous action. So then he goes on to tell me that this web site advises giving out your passwords to show honesty and that your not hiding anything.<BR>When i reminded him that he already has listened to my messages on occasion but never lets me listen to his he stormed off. Hasn't talked to me since.<BR>I was irrating him last night though after i waited half an hour for him to cool off i then went upstairs to rub his back like i promised earlier. He was on the phone but never hung it up....he was pretending to sleep so i took the phone hung it up and hit redial. A woman answered the phone. That was enough for me. See the important thing here is that i dialed on that phone his cell number so IF like he said he never called anyone.....WELL wouldn't i of gotten his cell number instead of the other woman??<BR>I irratated him with turning on the tv and reading in bed then i just figured if he continues to lie why bother?<BR>I'm suppose to do all this bending and giving and apoligizing while he does none????!!!<P>He even reads these messages and posts under rtn2 because i saved the password and id at his house. He writes people back in sometimes what i feel to be very rude ways. It's not like he practises what he preaches!<P>We've been doing this for 3 weeks now and i don't know if it was an incredibly bad week for him or he is tired of me but my feelings i think keep getting over looked. I am having an incredibly hard day. <P>Do you think he would acknowledge anything for me? I'm so hurt by his actions. I mean i even ran him a bath last night because the previous day he was just exhausted mentally and came unglued with our daughter.<BR>So i wanted to show him a really nice quite evening last night.<P>Sometimes i feel hopeless that he is even trying. Other times i feel like i am ontop the world. </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

FEMALE rtn2:<P>I agree with Weep that you need to keep your ID's separate here. <P>Obviously your H has some issues. Wanting accesss to all of your passwords in the name of trust is a bunch of BS, especially since he isn't sharing. It sounds like he is a very controlling person and very good at controlling you. You are entitled to your privacy, same as him. Trust is not developed by spying on one another. Trust is something that comes from within when one person truly beleives that the other, in addition to themselves, will do the 'right' thing. And if you can't trust yourself, your certainly can't trust others. <P>I don't know much about your situation as I have not gone to past posts, but from your prior thread it sounds like you go out of your way to 'please' him. What is he doing for you? He may very well appreciate the things you do, but if he doesn't express it, he better learn. Once I found out there were problems with my marriage I was willing to do ANYTHING to keep it together, but she wasn't willing.<P>Hang in there.