In a pervious post I talked about buying some perfume for my wife and just placing it where she puts this stuff. Will I went out and purchased some LIZ (her favorite) and put it in its place.<P>She went to bed last night and came down later and said why did you buy LIZ for me? My response was because I wanted to! She then said that it was to expensive and I said I got a deal! She then thanked me and SMILED.<P>This is the first smile I have seen from her in weeks. It was worth it just to see her smile!<P>

Wahoo! Deposit one love unit please - thank you.<P>------------------<BR><BR>Kathy

Oooh! You've done well. I'll keep praying.

That's great news!<P>I'm glad it worked for you.<P>Keep an eye out for further chances, God will help you see them.<P>But, one word of caution from personal experience: Don't do too much, too often, she may take it as you trying to manipulate her. Sound crazy but it happens.<P>Enjoy that smile she gave you though!

I am enjoying the smile and trying not to pursue her today. It is everything I can do not to call or email her!<P>Thanks for the support! And thanks for all the prayers!

Great job! I long for those smiles myself. Unfortunately, I don't get them that often.<P>You did well.

If buying the perfume was a love unit? What are other love units? I always try to be nice and accomodate her needs.<P>But most of what I do is seen negatively!

Love Units are going to depend on her. If she likes gifts well there's a start. Buy her flowers, but put them in a vase somewhere and don't hand them to her directly, as if you are expecting something in return.<P>If you don't have a lot of $$, then do something whimsical like picking a flower from the neighbor's flower bed and putting it in a bud vase by her bed...<P>Also be careful if the Love Bank is closed. It might become an annoyance if she doesn't want anything from you because she is too fed up with you.<P>H

Other than the experience last night I have felt like the love bank was closed.<P>You know I am having a difficult afternoon! I have sen clients and done my job but I just have this uneasy kind of unsettled feeling in my stomach.<P>I have been thinking alot about her today! I miss her alot and I so much want to hold her! I am so tired of all of this emotional crap!!! I just want to not feel it for a little while. I want to go to sleep and sleep!<P>Another thing is bothering me last night she came home with work out clothes and she is joining a fitness center near her work. She sure did not do this in the last 9 years!<P>Now were divorcing and she is making her self more attractive, this kind of pisses me off!

>>Another thing is bothering me last night she came home with work out clothes and she is joining a fitness center near her work. She sure did not do this in the last 9 years!<P>hurtinginOmaha,<P>- that is kind of eery... My wife said the same thing to me - that I did not work-out at all while we were together, but now that she moved out I started going again. <P>Its a little different situation with me, in that "she" had moved out already. But I did not start working out again for her (or for anyone else for that matter) - I did it for myself.<P>I can not tell you the benefits of exercise enough. Really. It has been 6 months now since I started and I am sleeping regularly, eating again and feeling overall "better about myself". And when the days "I don't think I can go on" come....I go to the gym. After about an hour I feel refueled and ready to continue.<P>It doesn't have to be a "gym", any kind or strenuous exercise would help. And you would be working on your physical appearence - remember, if you want to get her back, you may have to start completely over and "court" her all over again.<P>Don't dwell on her doing it, get in there yourself! Just a thought.

Yeah, I know and in fact I have been doing some good stuff for myself. Riding bike playing more golf again. I am real active with the kids!<P>I am trying to start over I am just so damn inpatient!<P>Thanks, Ted

I think that chromozone is missing in most men - "patience". We are all so quick to try and fix! The phrase I hate more than anything? "Time will heal all wounds" - <BR>NO, NOW!!! <P>Oh well, as you can see I need (and do) pray daily for patience and perseverence! I think we all need a little of both!