I am just curious....<P>What determines the member status of the different users on this site, i.e., Junior Member, Member, etc....?

It's just the number of posts/replies...<P>The "magic" number is either 25 or 30.<P>I won't tell you what I'm up to.<P> <P>Jim

Thanks for the info. <P>I'm not a betting man, but if I were to guess, I would say that your number of posts are probably around 3567!<P>Isn't technology great.

jayhawk, <P>i think you have the best outlook going on treating your ex spouse.<P>i so much agree not putting your life on hold and expanding and being angry is just not the way to go sitting thier grieving pathetic ..it seems it brings you no happiness just consider his\her lack of interest as OUT OF YOUR CONTROL!<P>you know in your heart that you have done everything you can, but it does take two! and without the other there can be no hope at all, it sad to say it but it really is a waste of all our positive energy.<P>i tried it all in trying to get back with my wife and it seemed the harder i pushed the more she pulled away, it was not until i gave up accepted the situation and really staring WORRYING ABOUT ME that the situation changed. <P>i vowed never again to chase her call her and pursue her,only to be rejected and heartbroken all over again, and when i closed that door, the results were remarkable. i really started to worry about me and took an interest in my life and started to have fun again.<P>i would not call her as i did in the past, if she called and left a message on my machine, i would not go out of my way to talk to her and just generally turned the other way. two months later she was at my door wanting to talk...and....well you know what i mean.....<P>but even beyond that i felt so much better about myself that major pain in my chest started to ease and the smiles and laughs came back....suddenly i seen the light and it truly was amazing.<P>i hope your new journey is a good one, the strength now will pay huge dividends, pray to the lord ask for the strength and you will feel better.........<P>remember YOU CAN DO IT!<P>RICK<BR>

Rick,<BR>I too have noticed that the more I push, the more she runs. I am hopeful that time away can bring her back, but with each passing day I count on it less and less.<P>I am just curious as to your situation in regard to where you are/were at in the divorce process when she started to come back around? Had you started dating or were you just spending time with friends?

The magic number is 35, I think.<P>I thought rtn2 is a woman?

I don't think so....<P>"i tried it all in trying to get back with my wife and it seemed the harder i pushed the more she pulled away"

Now I have reread rtn2's post - she said that Rick, her H or exH sometimes uses her account to answer mails. What's going on?

Weep:<P>It beats the *ell out of me???? If Rick does use her account to answer mails, at least I give him credit for attaching his name to clarify it. <P>Rick: Just a thought....but if you are going to join us here in our discussions, start your own ID so the rest of won't be so confused. We have enough to worry about as it is <BR>